The 72 Hour Rule is Made Up by Evangelical Authors. Yep. This month on the blog we're "fact checking" common sex beliefs, and one of the biggest ones in evangelical circles is the 72 hour rule: the idea that a wife must have sex with her husband every 72 hours,...
Do the 5 Love Languages stand up to scientific scrutiny? In January of this year, an article was published and was called Popular Psychology Through a Scientific Lens: Evaluating Love Languages From a Relationship Science Perspective in the Psychological Science...
What happens to women’s desire level if their husbands don’t do housework? This month, our series on the blog is going to focus on some new studies that have recently been published in peer reviewed journals. We like keeping up with research, and we shared four new...
One of the things we're passionate about on this blog is making sure the advice that is given about marriage and sex in the evangelical world is healthy. Over the last few years, our team has surveyed over 32,000 people, measuring how certain teachings common in the...
Do complementarian men do best? That's what Nancy Pearcey says in her new book The Toxic War on Masculinity! Men who believe that marriage is a hierarchy and that men should get the final decisions (complementarians) do best. This is the podcast (and the op ed) that...
What if our advice actually triggers the behaviour we want to prevent? One of my favourite places on the internet is our private Patreon Facebook group, where the people who support us financially hang out. For just $5 a month people can join our Patreon group, and in...
Ever feel like the fog of toxic teaching is lifting? One of the more encouraging things that’s happened to me online lately is my readers’ responses when I posted just one quote from the August 1 Desiring God article, “Your Husband Will Be Perfect; How To Love A...
Before we get going with the regular post, this week Connor called me up with a notification he got from our podcast host! We Hit 2,500,000 Downloads! Thank you so much for your constant support! This is thrilling. "Listens" tend to be higher than downloads, and that...
Evangelical materials are often very subpar. A few years ago, after I had written our first series about the problems with the book Love & Respect, a male friend of mine who had led sessions on Love & Respect at an annual men’s conference contacted me. He had...
We can change the evangelical conversation about sex and marriage. Let’s say that with the proper emphasis: We CAN change the evangelical conversation about sex and marriage. Or even: WE can change the evangelical conversation about sex and marriage. Together. That’s...
Social media is revealing that not all pastors and authors are experts. For several years in a former church we had a pastor who liked asking congregants to come up and give pertinent illustrations in their areas of expertise. So when he was talking about how the eye...
Why do people hate our research for The Great Sex Rescue so much? Well, really hate our research for everything, including our new book She Deserves Better! Last week, a Twitter storm broke out with me at the center of it. Podcast host Patrick Miller invited Josh...
Do boys have to fight constantly not to picture girls naked? Yesterday on the Bare Marriage podcast (episode 183) we walked you through some of the problems that we discovered with the modesty messages that were given to girls as teens, especially during the purity...
We usually talk about libido differences in terms of high vs. low. Who has the higher libido? Who has the lower libido? And are these the best ways to talk about libido? In today's podcast, we talk about two OTHER ways to conceptualize libido differences that we find...
Have you ever seen someone just totally twist a study to prove excatly what they want it to say? Then you read the study and you just go--hold up. That's not it at all! We dealt with this back when we reviewed a post by Josh Howerton talking about how...