The Danes can teach us a lot about how to be happy in marriage! I am back from three weeks offline (which was amazing, and which I desperately needed), and during that time my mother and my husband and I took a cruise of Northern Europe, spending time in Denmark and...
The window of tolerance concept helps highlight emotional health. On a recent podcast episode, I was honoured to have licensed counsellor, Jay Stringer, on as a guest. One of the things he talked about was that evangelical views on gender roles and marriage are...
We love to say that spouses aren’t just roommates And they’re definitely not! Roommates share a living space, and little else. Spouses are supposed to share everything. But at the same time, there are some basic things that go into the roommate experience that may...
When we marry, it's because we want to be with someone for the rest of our lives. We enjoy being with them. We love them. We want that relationship. And God said that was a good thing! "It is not good for man to be alone." This month on the blog we're looking at the...
Is it wrong to have expectations in marriage? We've been talking about entitlement in marriage, and on Monday I wrote about the difference between feeling entitled and having realistic expectations in marriage. I want to expand on that today. So often we're told that...
If we want great sex...we may need to look OUTSIDE the bedroom for answers! Here's a stat that I shared on social media last night about the correlation between arousal and emotional connection:It's just one stat in a bigger chart in The Great Sex Rescue--which has...
What if there's something super simple you could do that could improve your mood and your marriage? I talked on Monday about rhythms in our lives--how to honor our bodies' rhythms, with the need for work and rest; for feasting and fasting. And I thought today we could...
If you know you have an unhealthy attachment style, how can you grow and change? It's the last day in May, and so I want to wrap up our posts about attachment styles. I'm so glad so many of you have found this concept helpful; it's really changed how I see the main...
Our attachment style that we learn in childhood affects our "love styles" as adults. I'm a big fan of the book How We Love by Milan and Kay Yerkovich. It's one of the few Christian marriage books that I can recommend wholeheartedly. How We Love is based on...
Has anyone noticed that the math in Love & Respect for how many people the book applies to doesn't add up? Joanna and her family are on their way down from the Arctic today to stay at my house for a week. They're moving to Edmonton (it's funny to think of Edmonton...
What if sex physically works well--but afterwards you just feel distant from one another? This month on the blog I'm going a "number of the day" series, and I meant to put this post up on Wednesday but the blog was all glitchy that day when we were switching to other...
We're at the end of our Direct Communication series, and I wanted to give you a final pep talk today! This month we've looked at why direct communication can be hard, both in general and for men and women uniquely. We've looked at how it can feel mean, but isn't....
Our gendered teachings in the church can make it difficult for men to communicate directly with their wives, too. We're in the middle of our direct communication series, looking at why it's hard to communicate directly, what direct communication looks like, and more....
Do gendered teachings in the church make direct communication harder? We're in the middle of our series on direct communication--why direct communication is hard; what direct communication looks like; why direct communication feels mean, but isn't. Today and tomorrow...
When you start asking for things directly, it can feel like you're being really mean. But what if the opposite is true? What if speaking directly is actually a way to be kind? We're at the start of our direct communication series this month on the blog, and we've...