Are women divorcing left and right for no reason? Lately I've seen an uptick on social media sharing two "facts": Women initiate 70% of divorces In 75% of those divorces, "lack of commitment" is the reason for divorce The conclusion being made is that women are fickle...
Divorced women are not finding evangelical churches to be welcoming places. Despite the fact that many women endured years of trying to make their marriage work even in the presence of their husband’s abuse, infidelity, or substance abuse, when the divorce is...
Sometimes the hardest thing to do is to admit to ourselves when we're in an abusive marriage. October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and before the month was over I wanted to share a letter that I recieved a few years ago in from a reader. Whenever stories of...
How did gender hierarchy theology become so accepted by so many? I’m taking a month off of the blog to get some much needed downtime, and I thought that this was the perfect opportunity to highlight some amazing women writers that I’ve been interacting with on...
Jane Austen has some great marriage advice! Or at least, some wonderful advice on HOW TO CHOOSE A SPOUSE. And for the last two podcasts of the season before we take a month off, we decided to record something that we wanted to talk about, something that we talk about...
Sheila here! Keith’s had something gnawing at him for quite a few months, and asked if he could write the series for June where he can build his case. He’s recently read the Danvers Statement, the statement that solidifies the complementarian view of marriage based on...
The story behind Shiny, Happy People is the story behind Bare Marriage. Not exactly, of course. But in many ways we started this work because of the same forces that the new documentary Shiny, Happy People, which just landed on Amazon Prime, is revealing. This one is...
Last week, a video of Steven Crowder berating his wife Hilary went viral. Hilary was eight months pregnant with twins at the time, and video showed her trying to de-escalate while Steven Crowder yelled at her, swore at her, threatened her ("Watch it!"), and accused...
Not every girl has an equal chance of growing up and marrying an abuser. The family circumstances and social environment she grows up in can greatly impact her chances. And these things are, to a certain extent, out of our control. But there are things that are even...
Sometimes I laugh when making a Fixed It for You and I just can't stop. I mean, often my Fixed It for Yous are so awful that they make you angry and make you all riled up to change things all at once. And sometimes they're so stupid (for lack of a better word) that...
Today I want to tell you the story of a woman who was the victim of marital rape--and what her church did to her. She's an amazing woman. She reached out to me after our posts on marital rape back in November, in the middle of our series about getting out of sexual...
John MacArthur has sent abused women back to their husbands. It is horrific. Julie Roys broke a story last year about Eileen Gray. Twenty years ago she came to the church leadership at Grace Community Church for help for her abusive marriage. Her husband was abusing...
Do you remember your pre-teen years when you used to dream of kissing your crush? In those days you likely couldn't imagine much beyond kissing, but kissing was a BIG DEAL. All the romance movies ended when the couple had their first kiss. The culmination of teenage...
What do you practically do about entitlement in marriage? We’re at the end of our entitlement series, and all month we’ve been looking at how entitlement can impact a marriage. We’ve looked at the difference between realistic expectations and entitlement. We’ve looked...
What if a lot of entitlement comes from a desire to not have to grow up? It’s Rebecca on the blog today, and I’m expanding on what I sent in a newsletter back last week. But I want to start with a story of a time when I was refusing to be a grown up, and it caused me...