The window of tolerance concept helps highlight emotional health. On a recent podcast episode, I was honoured to have licensed counsellor, Jay Stringer, on as a guest. One of the things he talked about was that evangelical views on gender roles and marriage are...
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A Fun Conversation Starter with Your spouse: A Short Version of Our Survey
Want something to help you have some deep conversations with your spouse? Keith and I are in the throes of finishing up the first big draft of our marriage book that comes out next spring! It's due in at the publishers on March 1. A big part of that book is the...
Focus on the Family’s Scary Stance About Men Jailed for Domestic Violence
Focus on the Family wants women to believe that if they pray, men jailed for domestic violence can change. Just before Christmas, on December 19, something super strange happened on the Focus on the Family Facebook Page. They shared this story:"My marriage was over....
PODCAST: Why Is Emerson Eggerichs Scared of Women Talking?
You're not going to believe what Emerson Eggerichs' idea of friendship is. We're in podcast 2 of a 3 podcast series, Let Men Be Men! Our thesis is a simple one: we believe that men can be emotionally healthy, competent, responsible people. We believe that men can, and...
Virginity Is Not a Synonym for Sexual integrity
Have we missed the boat on sexual integrity? I was hoping to do a series on honoring God with a new sexual ethic, but I overpromised. Keith and I have our marriage book due in March, and I’m frantically trying to write it, and I spent so much of Monday and Tuesday of...
Sweat the Small Stuff Early in Your Marriage!
It’s okay to sweat the small stuff. We talk a lot at Bare Marriage about the big things that wreck a marriage, and how when abuse is running rampant within a marriage, it’s important to acknowledge that it is a sign of a broken relationship. But there’s also another...
PODCAST: If Momma Ain’t Happy–Why It’s Okay to Sweat the Small Stuff
Is it really a woman's role to pretend like everything is okay? To see her life as just being about surrender, as if her needs don't matter? We're going to look at some typical advice that's given to women in the evangelical church, and show how this can actually lead...
Are 70% of Divorces Really Caused by Women Divorcing Frivolously?
Are women getting divorced frivolously, for no reason? For some reason, there’s been a big uptick in social media accounts quoting two statistics: Women initiate 70% of divorces 75% of women cite lack of commitment as the reason for divorce The commentary around this...
PODCAST: Are 70% of Divorces Due to Women Leaving for No Reason?
Are women divorcing left and right for no reason? Lately I've seen an uptick on social media sharing two "facts": Women initiate 70% of divorces In 75% of those divorces, "lack of commitment" is the reason for divorce The conclusion being made is that women are fickle...
How Churches Treat Women Who Divorced for Abuse
Divorced women are not finding evangelical churches to be welcoming places. Despite the fact that many women endured years of trying to make their marriage work even in the presence of their husband’s abuse, infidelity, or substance abuse, when the divorce is...
Is It Abuse? How do You Accept that You’re in an Abusive Marriage?
Sometimes the hardest thing to do is to admit to ourselves when we're in an abusive marriage. October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and before the month was over I wanted to share a letter that I recieved a few years ago in from a reader. Whenever stories of...
PODCAST: Bullied for Leaving an Abusive Marriage with Naghmeh Panahi
I first heard of Naghmeh Panahi when she was campaigning to get her husband Saeed, a pastor, released from an Iranian prison. I saw her on the news, and heard about the prayer vigils, and even took part. Perhaps you did too. And then I remember vaguely the chaos as he...
Podcast: Can the Enneagram Help Your Marriage? feat. Christa Hardin
What does the Enneagram have to say about your marriage? I'm a total personality test geek. My mom spent a lot of her career utilizing different personality tools in her business consulting role going in to talk about corporate change, and she was really big on the...