Christian leaders should not be trying to convince women to send nude photos. This doesn't seem like it should even have to be said, but earlier this week I put up a Fixed It for You of Gary Thomas' and Debra Fileta's book Married Sex, which had this sentence: Here's...
Is there hope for recovery for unwanted sexual behaviors, fantasies, or compulsions? I've been wanting to do this podcast for ages! I love Jay Stringer's book Unwanted, and we've connected behind the scenes a bit over the last few months, talking about our respective...
How many of us have heard a grown man grumble about what a teenager is wearing, saying “She knows what she’s doing”? Rebecca here on the blog, bringing you another dose of data from new research we haven’t reviewed on the blog yet! This one is super interesting, and...
Is the antidote to lust that men learn the "bouncing your eyes" technique, as advocated in Every Man's Battle? We've been talking about new ways to think about lust this week, with Keith's post yesterday (and our podcast coming up tomorrow. UPDATE: It's live now!). In...
What if the real reason that lust is bad really isn't about sex? i've talked about lust before on the blog--with the question "is lust really every man's battle"? I've written that noticing is not lusting. But my husband Keith wanted to chime in today, as he writes...
How does porn use before marriage affect marriage afterwards? I wrote a big post on how porn hurts your sex life earlier this week, and I felt like it was such an important subject (and we got so many comments) that I thought it was important to expand on it a bit and...
If a guy (or a teenage girl) has grown up using porn, how is that going to affect marriage? I'm going to take a bit of a time-out from Christmas posts today to talk about something that's come up lately that I think is important. If you've been married for less than...
To tell you the truth, I don't know a whole lot about erections. Mostly because I've never had one. But I get a LOT of questions about them. And I'm really behind on all my reader questions, so I thought today I'd invite my husband Keith onto the podcast, because he's...
Porn is not harmless. Social media can be a minefield. And the internet can suck productive time away and cause us to miss out on important parts of our lives. That's why I believe parents have to get a handle on their kids' internet usage, and why I firmly believe in...
If a man is trying to recover from a porn addiction, does he need to detoxify by making sure that he never sees any woman who could be alluring? One of the biggest searches that land people on this blog is for the effects of porn on the brain, and so I have a lot of...
Can you have a porn-free home? I wish I could say, "absolutely!", but I can't. I don't even like the title of this post, because it promises something I can't deliver. I was thinking of "Porn Safe", but that makes it sound like your home is safe FOR porn. Then I was...
A woman's husband had a secret porn addiction, so she gets rid of his smartphone to help him in his sobriety. Another woman checks her husband's email after she found out he cheated on her. A third woman changes the bank account password because her husband was...
Are wives to blame if their husbands use pornography? One of the things we've been talking about on the blog lately is that you are not to blame if your spouse has an affair. You may have contributed to serious marriage problems. You may even have been the biggest...
Summer is here, and many of us are heading to the beach! But what do you do if the beach is a minefield because your husband checks out other women? Some women have written in having this problem. Here's one woman who says that whenever they're in public (even at the...
Porn addictions do not discriminate. For the last few weeks, I have been writing about how we need to change the way we talk about sex in church; sex is not just for men, but for women as well. However, the same applies to porn. It is not just men who are getting...