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PODCAST EXTRAS: Is It Man-Bashing to Assume Men Can Take on Emotional Labor?
If we say that it's okay to expect that men will want to be engaged at home, and will want to share the mental load, are we man-bashing? We've been talking all month about emotional labor and mental load--or just how overburdened many women feel when they are...
Age Appropriate Chores and Responsibilities for Kids
What is an appropriate age to expect children to do different chores? When can you expect them to be responsible for their own stuff? We've been talking about emotional labor and mental load this month, when mom carries the mental and physical burden for running the...
How FamZoo Can Help Kids “Own” Chores–While Teaching Money Skills!
What if there were an app that could help your kids get more responsible with chores--and with money? We've been talking this month about emotional labor and mental load--how to balance all the details that women especially have running through our heads, as we try to...
THE EMOTIONAL LABOR SERIES: How to Eliminate Nagging for Good
What if the reason that many women "nag", or at least men feel "nagged", is that women are carrying too much of the mental load? If only women know what tasks need to be done, then it's almost inevitable that they will have to issue constant instructions. And because...
The Emotional Labor of Kinkeeping: Why Men Should Call their Moms
Who does the emotional labor of keeping relationships with extended family close? We've been talking this month in our series about the work of emotional labor, and how that can contribute to women's mental load--that feeling that we're carrying all the details of the...
PODCAST: What if Your Husband’s Not on Board with Sharing Emotional Labor?
What if you want to redistribute the mental load and emotional labor in your household--but your husband's not on board? We've been talking about emotional labor all month on the blog, and we've got a lot more coming! And today on the podcast we want to continue the...
What if Your Husband Wants You to Work–But You Want to Stay at Home?
What do you do if you disagree about whether or not the wife should work? We talk a lot about the "mommy wars" between stay at home moms and working moms. But I've had a number of women in a different predicament: They really want to stay at home with their kids, but...
Should Doing Housework Be Considered Foreplay?
Have you all heard "sex begins in the kitchen"--not meaning that we should do interesting things with whipping cream, but that doing the dishes is a good method to get women to warm up? I hear this a lot--"Guys, if you want her to have sex with you, you had better...
EMOTIONAL LABOR SERIES: How Do We Decide What Needs to Be Done?
When we're trying to divide up the mental load, one of the problems we run into is agreeing on what actually needs to be done. This month we're looking at emotional labor and mental load, and we started our series last week talking about the problem of mental load and...
Can We Deal with Mental Load Without Having a Contest of Who Has it Worse?
How does mental load affect stress? This week we've been talking on the blog about mental load and emotional labor, in three posts: What is emotional labor and mental load? The Fair Play solution Our podcast on mental load A bunch of you have sent me emails, and there...