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PODCAST: Why Is the Old Testament So Cavalier About the Abuse of Women? feat. Helen Paynter
Have you ever felt uncomfortable with the treatment of women in the Old Testament? I was recently sent a note from a woman that said this:I've been really seriously struggling as I've been leaving the evangelical church recently and what has spurred a lot of this on...
Are Evangelical Egalitarians Just “Giving in to Culture” While Complementarians stick to the Bible?
Do egalitarians just Giving in to Culture? My husband Keith (bless him!) spends an inordinate amount of time on social media arguing with complementarians. And he's noticed some commonalities in their arguments. So he decided to wite a series on the big problems with...
What’s the Proper Way to Approach the Ephesians 5 Marriage Passages?
Our approach to the marriage passages about Scripture shows us how we view God. Do we try to find justification for hierarchy and power, or do we look at the bigger picture? My husband Keith spends a lot of his free time engaging on Threads and Facebook with super...
PODCAST: What If Tim and Kathy Keller Were Wrong About Marriage?
Are wives supposed to be more like Jesus than husbands are? Because that's sure what it can sound like, when authors like Tim and Kathy Keller tell women that Philippians 2--about Jesus taking the form of a servant and becoming nothing--is how women should act in...
Dear Deconstructionists: Evangelical Women Need Our Help–They Don’t Just “Deserve” What’s Coming
We have a crisis of abuse in the evangelical church. It's hard to get exact numbers on it, but it seems as if marital abuse is just as high in evangelical circles as it is in the general population--BUT (and this is an important BUT) evangelical women take longer to...
Evangelicals Keep Blaming Rape Victims Because They Don’t Understand Trauma
Evangelicals have a horrible history of blaming rape victims. We saw it during purity culture where losing your virginity--whether consensually or non-consensually--was lumped into the same category as being "impure." We saw it in Eric and Leslie Ludy's book When God...
PODCAST: Called To Serve–What If We’re Burying Women’s Talents in the Ground?
I heard such amazing inspirational stories about women in ministry I had to share today! The Atlantic Baptists are a small Baptist denomination in Atlantic Canada, and they've been ordaining women for a few decades now. They recently started a project to preserve the...
Do You Find It Hard to Believe that Christians Have Better Sex?
We know that the evangelical church has taught horrible things about sex. We know those things have had a horrible impact. And so, how could it be possible that Christians still seem to have better sex than the general population?Over the last few days I've been...
Is the IFS Study Saying Christians Have Better Sex WRONG?
The Institute for Family Studies, a conservative think talk, just published an article claiming that religious people have better and more frequent sex. They published an article in the Atlantic explaining their findings, and a larger 62-page report on their...
PODCAST: the Mica MIller Tragedy Is the End Result of the Evangelical Take on Sex
Sometimes I say things on interviews much better than I say them on my own podcast! Because we talk about the evangelical take on sex on the Bare Marriage podcast ALL THE TIME, when I address it on our podcast it's usually because of a very specific issue. We look at...