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PODCAST: Male-Centric Sex vs. The Sexual Response Cycle
What if the sex that is being described by many male authors is actually male-centric? What if the way they're talking about sex actually hints that it's not about her pleasure at all, but is simply focused on his climax during intercourse? That's what we think is...
Is Kissing Before Marriage a Good Litmus Test?
Are we missing something if we save kissing for marriage? One of the tenets of purity culture was that all physical contact--even kissing--should be saved for marriage. It wasn't just that sex is for marriage. It was that kissing was too. Some couples didn't even...
What if Pastors and Authors Aren’t Necessarily the Real Experts?
Social media is revealing that not all pastors and authors are experts. For several years in a former church we had a pastor who liked asking congregants to come up and give pertinent illustrations in their areas of expertise. So when he was talking about how the eye...
Two Apologies That Are a Balm to My Soul
Apologies are wonderful to receive. And to be honest--I had given up hope that I would ever receive any. I've been calling out the harm of toxic teachings in the church for four years now, and asking the church to do what's right. In return, I've often been villified,...
PODCAST: Tell Her Story–The Forgotten Women of the Bible with Nijay Gupta
Are there women in the Bible whose stories you've never heard? There likely are! Nijay Gupta opens his new book Tell Her Story with the story of the four African American women featured in the book Hidden Figures, who worked at NASA for the first space flights and...
Are We Shaming Teens for Having Sexual Feelings?
When you're a teen, it's normal to have sexual feelings. In fact, sexual feelings are a normal part of life for adults too! We have sex dreams (the content of which can sometimes be quite alarming). We can feel attraction to people. We can feel "horny", for lack of a...
What Our Research and the Thalidomide Campaign Have in Common
Why do people hate our research for The Great Sex Rescue so much? Well, really hate our research for everything, including our new book She Deserves Better! Last week, a Twitter storm broke out with me at the center of it. Podcast host Patrick Miller invited Josh...
How to Find a Healthy Church Family
If we're going to go to church, we want to go to a healthy church. No one sets out to go to a toxic church! But one of the big findings we had in our new book She Deserves Better (the audiobook version went on sale this week!) is that while church attendance is...
PODCAST: Why Every Young Man’s Battle Makes Boys’ Lust Problems Worse
Every Young Man's Battle is a dangerous book. Part of the Every Man's Battle series, it is addressed to teenage boys to help them battle lust and pornography. I hear about Christian schools and youth groups that are still going through it with 13, 14, or 15-year-old...
10 Huge Problems with Every Young Man’s Battle: With a One-Sheet Download
Every Young Man’s Battle is the only book I ever reviewed that made me weep. Perhaps it’s because I read it after I had already read a whole bunch of books aimed at teen girls, and it was just the straw that broke the camel’s back. But I think there was a whole other...