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Do Women Really Not Want Sex? Let’s Talk About The 90% And the 10%
What’s the real reason many women don’t want sex? Whenever we talk about how sex should be mutual, intimate, and pleasurable for both and that the obligation sex message is toxic, the reply we get is something along these lines: without obligation, obviously, women...
PODCAST: Pastors’ Wives Spill the Tea on Church Life
Let's get real about Church life! Today we have some special guests on, the lovely ladies from Pastors' Wives Tell All! This is not the first time I've been on a podcast with them, but usually it's theirs. So this time they are joining me on my show to discuss the...
If We Want Healthy Churches, We Need to Take Risks
Sometimes finding a life-giving church means investing in building one. When our girls were tiny we lived in downtown Toronto, and attended an amazing Anglican church that was made up mostly of people who weren’t Anglicans. It was in a historic church building, with...
Let’s Stop Taking Advice from Men with a Pornified View of Women
When men reveal they objectify women–treat those men accordingly. One of the things that shocks me about evangelical culture is that a man can reveal that he has a really low view of women, or that he objectifies women or blames them for men’s sin, and that doesn’t...
Do New Brides Need Their Husbands to Teach Them about Sex?
Do men naturally know more about sex than women? On a recent Facebook post, still deeply bothered by that infamous clip from Josh Howerton, I asked this question, “Do we think men "naturally" know more about sex than women do? And that men are equipped to teach...
PODCAST: The Backlash Defending Purity Culture feat. Zachary Wagner
How's purity culture doing one year since She Deserves Better launched? Today we're celebrating one year since our book She Deserves Better hit the market! Based on our survey of 7000 predominantly evangelical women, looking at how their experiences in church circles...
Smells Like Jezebel Spirit: Can We Please Stop Calling Women Jezebel Spirit?
Some awfully bizarre things happened at the recent Strong Men’s Conference–and Jezebel made an appearance. I don’t even know where to begin, and I don’t want to talk about the conference itself because so many have already done a good job. To sum up, there was one of...
Fact Checked It: Are Teen Girls Asexual?
Do teen girls have a sex drive? I’m desperately hoping that you answer, “Of course!” Now, obviously not all teen girls will be sexual (asexuals do make up a small part of the population). But the idea that teen girls are somehow not sexual, while teen boys are...
What LakePointe Church and Pastor Josh Howerton Think about Women
Josh Howerton has made terribly degrading comments about women and sex from the pulpit. His teaching on sex and marriage has been problematic. And I seem to be in the middle of it. Because of that, I've been sent a ton of problematic things about Lakepointe from a lot...
PODCAST: How Submission “Cults” Groom for Abuse–One Woman’s Story
When you've been raised to submit, will you even recognize abuse? With thanks to the NIV Kingdom Girls Bible for sponsoring this podcast! Today on the Bare Marriage podcast, we've got such a compelling interview with Lauren Rose from Called to Peace Ministries. She's...