What does it mean to look like a lady? One of the fun part about my job is that I get to read books that I wouldn't otherwise hear of--books that are unique, ever so cool, and change my thinking. All while teaching me something new! Look Like a Lady is like that. We...
Have you ever felt like God was more like some than others? When you're a woman, and God is always talked about as male, it can make it seem like God can understand men more than women. Like the things that women go through are a little alien to God, more so than the...
When women are vulnerable, abuse can flourish And it's a problem that so much advice to evangelical women today is aimed at making women extremely vulnerable--sexually, financially, relationally. Today we're going to look at how much women are asked to do risky things...
The Emowered Wife is really, really bad. Like horrifically bad. It basically tells women to self-erase and self-censor in order to make husbands have as smooth a ride as possible so that there's no reason for them to feel triggered, so that they'll be nice to you. And...
Ever noticed how much evangelical marriage advice treats men like little boys? And the solution that helps men mature and grow up is women? But then these same books turn around and tell you he's the leader? So basically men aren't capable of being mature and making...
Will we ever hear an apology from Dannah Gresh and others? We're wrapping up our 3-episode arc on the Bare Marriage podcast this week, looking at how purity culture authors (and others!) are trying to rewrite history to make it seem as if they didn't say the harmful...
How do you actually measure the "good fruit" of marriage teaching? Over the last little while, we've been criticized for saying that it's good fruit if marriages are happy, while ignoring the more important things like whether people are obeying Christ. That's...
Dannah Gresh is Rewriting And the Bride Wore White. But is she apologizing for all the harmful things she wrote before? Is she acknowledging that she told 8-year-old's that their bellies are "intoxicating", which she defined as making adult men "out of control"? Is...
Let's react to pastors, influencers, and more! One of the things that we like to do periodically is play some of the horrid reels that get sent to us and react to them. Yes, the reels are interesting and there's lots of commentary to be made. But one of the biggest...
What is healthy masculinity? We hear a ton about toxic masculinity, and our guest today has written a book on Non-Toxic Masculinity before too! But what does it look like for men to pursue a life AS MEN but also as Jesus-followers? How do we figure out what it means...
Many of us are starting from scratch with parenting. We were raised in James Dobson, authoritarian type households, and we know we don't want that for our children. But we also look around at so many of the parenting trends today, and it seems as if there aren't any...
The Billy Graham Rule sexualizes everyone--and isn't biblical. There's nothing in the Bible that says that we can't have healthy relationships with our brothers and sisters in Christ, and much that says the opposite. But the evangelical church has been obsessed with...
This time we're looking at lust & sex in For Men Only! It's Part 2 of our deep dive into the book For Men Only by Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn, and we saved the sex & lust & libido stuff to this podcast, because Rebecca had a lot to say. If you remember, the...
For Men Only presents such a sad view of marriage! Written by Shaunti Feldhahn and her husband Jeff, it's a companion book for her best-seller For Women Only, that we've talked about before. This is a conversation that Rebecca has been wanting to have since we first...
How do yo find yourself again after emerging from fundamentalism? Many of us have had religious trauma from our church upbringing, or a dysfunctional marriage where we've stayed because we thought God wanted us to. We've endured so much, and have been taught that our...