How's purity culture doing one year since She Deserves Better launched? Today we're celebrating one year since our book She Deserves Better hit the market! Based on our survey of 7000 predominantly evangelical women, looking at how their experiences in church circles...
When you've been raised to submit, will you even recognize abuse? With thanks to the NIV Kingdom Girls Bible for sponsoring this podcast! Today on the Bare Marriage podcast, we've got such a compelling interview with Lauren Rose from Called to Peace Ministries. She's...
"So you think it's okay if women just don't have sex, then?" Whenever we talk about how sex should be mutual, intimate, and pleasurable for both, and that the obligation sex message is toxic, the reply we get is something along these lines--without obligation,...
Is the honeymoon all about the guy FINALLY getting sex? Nope. But too often evangelicals talk like this--and it has grave consequences. Licensed counselor Jay Stringer sent me a video a few weeks ago that he was really concerned about. SBC Megachurch pastor Josh...
Forgiveness is a concept that has often been weaponized against victims. Whether it's people married to abusers, or people married to someone who has cheated on them or hurt them in some other way, often in the church as long as that person apologizes, the onus is now...
Understanding our stories helps us understand our choices--and make different ones in the future. The last book I read in 2023 was an advanced copy of Natalie Hoffman's new memoir, All the Scary Little Gods. It's absolutely devastating and lovely and completely quirky...
Who is really a complementarian? Just when we think we're finished arguing something, another critique pops up. And honestly--we had SUCH FUN doing this podcast! Keith and I planned it for several days beforehand, going over all the arguments we wanted to use. But it...
A lot has surprised us in the three years since Great Sex Rescue was published! Today on the Bare Marriage podcast the three authors--Joanna Sawatsky, Rebecca Lindenbach, and me--all discuss what has surprised us and what we've seen since The Great Sex Rescue was...
What if...the people we listen to for advice are more likely to be being abused? And what if the couples held up as ones to emulate by organizations like Focus on the Family are actually in really destructive relationships? This was a sad one for me to record, because...
We're back with Lies Women Believe, Part 2! Last week Natalie Hoffman and Gretchen Baskerville joined us to look at the problems in Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth's book Lies Women Believe, specifically about marriage. But to be honest, there was so much more about this book...
It's time for a deep dive into Lies Women Believe! ** Scroll down to receive the downloadable one sheet (look for the box to enter your email! ** As you all know, I have a deep concern that many resources offered to women in the evangelical world are deeply unhealthy...
We've got four new peer-reviewed studies on marriage and sex for you today! We keep a folder of all kinds of new studies that come out that we find interesting, and I've been searching for a bunch lately as Keith and I are currently frantically writing our new...
Let men be dads! It's our third podcast in our let men be men series, and we're finishing that up today with a bang! We often get accused of hating men, which is funny, because we believe men are amazing! Men can be totally emotionally healthy. Men have the Holy...
You're not going to believe what Emerson Eggerichs' idea of friendship is. We're in podcast 2 of a 3 podcast series, Let Men Be Men! Our thesis is a simple one: we believe that men can be emotionally healthy, competent, responsible people. We believe that men can, and...
We often get accused of hating men. When we say that men weren't created to lust; that men can be emotionally healthy and can actually handle strong women, we're told that we don't like men. We don't think that's actually right. We believe that men can be emotionally...