How do you actually measure the "good fruit" of marriage teaching? Over the last little while, we've been criticized for saying that it's good fruit if marriages are happy, while ignoring the more important things like whether people are obeying Christ. That's...
Dannah Gresh is Rewriting And the Bride Wore White. But is she apologizing for all the harmful things she wrote before? Is she acknowledging that she told 8-year-old's that their bellies are "intoxicating", which she defined as making adult men "out of control"? Is...
Let's react to pastors, influencers, and more! One of the things that we like to do periodically is play some of the horrid reels that get sent to us and react to them. Yes, the reels are interesting and there's lots of commentary to be made. But one of the biggest...
What is healthy masculinity? We hear a ton about toxic masculinity, and our guest today has written a book on Non-Toxic Masculinity before too! But what does it look like for men to pursue a life AS MEN but also as Jesus-followers? How do we figure out what it means...
Many of us are starting from scratch with parenting. We were raised in James Dobson, authoritarian type households, and we know we don't want that for our children. But we also look around at so many of the parenting trends today, and it seems as if there aren't any...
The Billy Graham Rule sexualizes everyone--and isn't biblical. There's nothing in the Bible that says that we can't have healthy relationships with our brothers and sisters in Christ, and much that says the opposite. But the evangelical church has been obsessed with...
This time we're looking at lust & sex in For Men Only! It's Part 2 of our deep dive into the book For Men Only by Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn, and we saved the sex & lust & libido stuff to this podcast, because Rebecca had a lot to say. If you remember, the...
For Men Only presents such a sad view of marriage! Written by Shaunti Feldhahn and her husband Jeff, it's a companion book for her best-seller For Women Only, that we've talked about before. This is a conversation that Rebecca has been wanting to have since we first...
How do yo find yourself again after emerging from fundamentalism? Many of us have had religious trauma from our church upbringing, or a dysfunctional marriage where we've stayed because we thought God wanted us to. We've endured so much, and have been taught that our...
Women have a harder time enjoying sex--so why is the mental load left to her? Today on the podcast we play a bunch of clips of different pastors/speakers that show all the different ways that the mental load & emotional labour for sex are so often placed on...
Can you tell from a church's website if they're healthy? Not necessarily. But you sure can weed out a lot of unhealthy ones! So if you're trying to find a healthy church, we've got a guide for you today. There's a super short, to the point, template for this in...
Every Man's Battle Prioritizes Predators over Victims It's horrifying--and you won't understand how bad it is until you see it with your own eyes. We're doing something different for the podcast this week--out of necessity! We've been running behind since I was...
We've got a new research paper on modesty messaging coming out! We've been working behind the scenes on a number of different peer reviewed papers, and we have another one to tell you about today regarding modesty messaging and sexual harassment in church. Plus Keith...
Let’s talk ADHD and marriage! What does it mean to have realistic expectations of a spouse with ADHD? How does gender play into how ADHD impacts a relationship? And what do accommodations actually look like—versus what do they *not* look like in a healthy marriage? In...
Why do evangelical women see sex as a chore? We're doing a fun podcast today where I'm combining a whole bunch of different things that I've been wanting to talk about, and putting them together so that they tell a consistent story. At least that's the plan! We're...