Is it fair to compare romance novels to porn? Quite often in comment sections in our posts about porn, or even in pastor's sermons or various websites for single women, the topic of romance novels = porn will be raised. Men will often say, "sure, you call out guys for...
What if marriage has become the main path to ministry for women? Or really, the main option for women? (Thank you, Brazos Press, for sponsoring this episode of the Bare Marriage podcast! Our sponsors make what we do possible, and we are so excited to be able to...
What if you could have the marriage you actually want? Our new book the Marriage You Want launched officially this week--and it's been #1 in top new releases in Christian marriage all week! Thank you so much! Today Keith and I want to share our heart for the book,...
What does immaturity have to do with complementarianism? We had a hard time trying to figure out what to call this episode, because we didn't want to be TOO controversial--but at the same time, the findings were super interesting. When we looked at the data from our...
Is it a "love language" to do basic chores? When we wrote The Great Sex Rescue, one of the things that really bothered us was that evangelical marriage authors talked a ton about increasing the frequency of sex without ever mentioning the orgasm gap or sexual pain...
What if there's a Bigger problem in marriage than sex or money? We always hear that the two biggest issues in marriage are sex and money, right? Wrong. One of our findings in our matched pair survey for our new book The Marriage You Want (out March 11!) that blew us...
Is being a good wife in conflict with being a good mom? And what does it look like to prioritize your marriage? Episode 270 of Bare Marriage!
If you're in conflict, you just compromise, right? Well, not necessarily! Here's the thing: compromise only works if you're starting from an even playing field. If one of you is bearing significantly more of the load for the relationship, then it's not about each of...
When it comes to marriage, teamwork is associated with all the good stuff! Hierarchy, on the other hand, is associated with all the bad stuff. We explain today on the Bare Marriage podcast some of our biggest picture findings in The Marriage You Want, and how we...
I often get accused of just hating all evangelical marriage books. Surely there's SOMETHING you like, Sheila? Right? Or are you just trying to badmouth everything so that you can sell more books? The critiques often go like that. But here's the thing: It actually...
It's the podcast where we finally get to disprove the love & respect thesis! Did God make men to need respect, while women need love? Do men prefer respect over love? We've been told this for decades, starting with James Dobson popularizing it, and then Emerson...
Why did we all get sucked in to toxic teachings about sex and marriage? Because here's the thing: Unless we understand the why, then even if we leave those toxic teachings behind, it's very likely that we'll get sucked into other forms of toxic teachings about...
The Great Sex Rescue is officially peer reviewed! We used a subset of our dataset for a paper that was just published in the journal Sociology of Religion. So we have done it! We have raised the bar on what counts as research in evangelical marriage and sex advice....
Advent is a time of anticipation, of waiting, of hope. Those weeks leading up to Christmas are supposed to remind us of that in-between period where we know God is going to show up, but He hasn't done it yet. It's the not-quite-yet time. But what if, as we're...
What happens when a charismatic man with no qualifications starts a marriage ministry? You end up with a book that sounds like he wants the best for people--but gives completely unhelpful, and often very harmful, advice. Today Keith and I are taking a deep dive into...