It’s the Great Sex Rescue Toolkit!

Everything you need to know to understand what’s toxic and what’s not–so you can share with others!

If you’ve been following Bare Marriage for a while, you know that we have surveyed over 32,000 people to find out how so many messages about sex and marriage in evangelical circles actually cause harm.

And once you see it, you can’t unsee it.

But what if those around you can’t see? What if you desperately want others to understand how freeing our findings are, but you can’t figure out what to say?

I’ve got you covered!


In this easy-to-reference toolkit of videos and printables, you’ll find everything you need to brush up on our findings, and you’ll find talking points as you try to spread the message to your pastor, your church friends, your small group leader–even your spouse!

It’s the big picture findings from The Great Sex Rescue, She Deserves Better, and The Good Guy’s Guide to Great Sex, all distilled down for you.

to make things easier, you will find:

A video of me explaining all the big picture findings that you can watch with your pastor, your friends–anyone who is willing to listen! Or, if you’re a church leader yourself, you can share this video with your team to educate them on how to talk about sex in a healthy way.

Help to understand why people often won’t listen and don’t seem to want to know the truth–with a video and handouts on how to overcome frequent roadblocks.

 Plus beautifully designed hand-outs that do the work for you!

If you’re wondering: 

Where to start to influence your church?

What to do when people push back?

When to leave it, and when to keep talking?

I want to help!

We’ve got a carefully designed hand-out summarizing the harm for each and every toxic teaching we measured–and more!

  • We show with graphs, stats and more why the obligation sex message harms women (and increases the rates of sexual pain)
  • We explain why the “have sex so he won’t watch porn” message backfires
  • We show the fundamental flaws with the idea that “all men struggle with lust”, and show how the idea that one should just “bounce your eyes” still objectifies women
  • We trace how the gatekeeping message affects teen girls, and how these repercussions show up in marriages
  • We outline the devastating long-term consequences of the modesty messages given to teen girls, and show how we can talk about this well instead.
  • With every hand-out, we give people alternatives–”instead of saying THIS, say THIS.”
  • We give action steps so that we can move forward. 

We make it easy.

You don’t have to scour through The Great Sex Rescue for talking points. You don’t have to memorize charts. Bring the hand-outs with you and talk through them, or email them to friends to start conversations. 

Our stated goal in everything we do is to change the evangelical conversation about sex and marriage. 

We love Jesus, and we know that He brings health. We know that when things are of God, there is good fruit.

But there’s been too much bad fruit in the evangelical church. 

We want to change that, but we can’t do it alone. We can write books, but we don’t have access to your husband, your church, your small group.

You do. 

We’re a team, and we want to join forces with you as you speak up and create healthy spaces that matter to your family.

We don’t want price to be a barrier for the great sex rescue toolkit!

Unlike our other courses, this one isn’t about benefiting you personally as much as it is benefiting the kingdom. We did, however, invest a significant amount of money and time preparing these resources. 

So we’ve set up a pay-what-you-can plan! If you’d like to help us cover our costs, and give us a cushion so we can create more resources like this, then please be generous as you purchase this! But if you just don’t have the funds, we still want you to have the materials. Just pay what you can, and together we can get this in the hands of the most people possible.

Together, we can change the conversation about sex and marriage in the evangelical church.