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As we moved to Bare Marriage, we were picky about what content we brought over. The post you are looking for didn’t make the cut. However, there are still over 900 posts on this website so I am sure you can find something for your situation here!
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Recent Posts
When Modesty Rules Make Drowning More Likely
Swimming in regular clothing increases the risk of drowning. Seriously–it’s not safe. Both my daughters were lifeguards as teens, and I still remember the training exercises they had to do when they jumped into the pool in normal clothing and then had to rescue...
How a Bad Bible Translation Left Indian Women Feeling inferior
Sexism on the mission field can do so much damage. In so many parts of the world, patriarchy is already baked in. Jesus should be rescuing us from that! But what happens when missionaries come in and teach about Jesus--but also bring patriarchy? Then instead of being...
When Deconstruction Means Losing Family
Deconstruction often means losing loved ones and becoming estranged from parents. We’re just finishing up our deconstruction series on the podcast, talking to four different people about different aspects of deconstruction. In several of our stories, a common theme...
PODCAST: Spot the Propaganda and Logical Fallacies feat. Scott Coley
Is evangelicalism filled with propaganda? I'm not saying that Jesus is about propaganda, but rather that evangelicalism, in its current cultural form, is filled with people using the Bible to prop themselves up and keep themselves in power. And seriously--it's gotta...
Does Our Theology Let Girls Say No to Boys?
Are girls allowed to say a firm no to a boy? That seems like a ridiculous question, doesn’t it? Of course girls are allowed! But back up the truck, because this doesn’t seem to be what’s being taught to girls in evangelical circles, and I want to explore today WHY...
The Journey of Deconstruction Often Takes Time: How Not to Get Polarized
When we change our minds, we rarely do it all at once. Over the last decade, Keith and I have changed our minds about a lot of things. But we've done it at different rates, and it's been messy. We're pretty much at the same place today, but in some areas he beat me...
PODCAST: Hurt and Healed by the Church feat. Ryan George
What happens if church is the place of your greatest hurt? We're in our deconstruction series on the podcast, looking at different people's stories of deconstruction, and trying to honor all of them. What I really want to do is have people hear WHY people...
Why “It’s Just a Joke” Doesn’t Cut it When Men Make Mean Sex Jokes
A few months ago, I went viral on Twitter when I shared that atrocious clip of Josh Howerton telling women to "do what he tells you to do" on "his" wedding night. Many of Howerton's supporters, and Howerton himself, said it was "just a joke." Sam Jolman, who was on...
Let’s Talk Manifestation Theology False Marriage Teaching
You can’t honor your husband into greatness, people. Do a thought experiment with me today. Imagine that you had recently moved to Louisiana, and you hadn’t made a lot of friends yet. Your kids had been playing with some kids down the street who went to a church...