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As we moved to Bare Marriage, we were picky about what content we brought over. The post you are looking for didn’t make the cut. However, there are still over 900 posts on this website so I am sure you can find something for your situation here!
Here’s where you can search for specific topics, or else see the latest on the blog:
Recent Posts
When Male Hierarchy Teaching Turns Good Men Bad
Not everyone who ends up dominating their wife is actually an abuser at heart. What they are doing may be abusive; the same dynamics may be at play, and the same harm may be being done. But it doesn’t always come from the same place. Over and over again since we have...
Are Women Actually More Emotionally Intelligent than Men?
God Didn’t Make Women To Be Better at Relationships than Men. We talked in our first podcast of the month about four new studies on marriage & sex. This month we’re taking a deeper dive into the studies in some of our blog posts. So let’s look at this study:...
A Fun Conversation Starter with Your spouse: A Short Version of Our Survey
Want something to help you have some deep conversations with your spouse? Keith and I are in the throes of finishing up the first big draft of our marriage book that comes out next spring! It's due in at the publishers on March 1. A big part of that book is the...
PODCAST: Lies Women Believe Part 2–Is God a Monster?
We're back with Lies Women Believe, Part 2! Last week Natalie Hoffman and Gretchen Baskerville joined us to look at the problems in Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth's book Lies Women Believe, specifically about marriage. But to be honest, there was so much more about this book...
Valentine’s Day: What If Marriage Isn’t Supposed To Be That Hard?
What if marriage isn't supposed to be that hard? This is one of those weird years where Valentine's Day and Ash Wednesday land on the same day. For non-liturgical folks who don't follow the church calendar, Ash Wednesday is the day that Christians confess their sins...
NEW RESEARCH: Women Aren’t Turned On by Husbands Who Act Like Dependents
What happens to women’s desire level if their husbands don’t do housework? This month, our series on the blog is going to focus on some new studies that have recently been published in peer reviewed journals. We like keeping up with research, and we shared four new...
The Problems with Lies Women Believe by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth (with Download)
ONE OF THE THINGS WE’RE PASSIONATE ABOUT ON THIS BLOG IS MAKING SURE THE ADVICE THAT IS GIVEN ABOUT MARRIAGE AND SEX IN THE EVANGELICAL WORLD IS HEALTHY. Over the last few years, our team has surveyed over 32,000 people, measuring how certain teachings common in the...
PODCAST: The Problems with Lies Women Believe
It's time for a deep dive into Lies Women Believe! ** Scroll down to receive the downloadable one sheet (look for the box to enter your email! ** As you all know, I have a deep concern that many resources offered to women in the evangelical world are deeply unhealthy...
How One Woman Had an Orgasm Breakthrough after 16 Years
Sheila here! As we've been talking this week about new research showing that for many women, sex is like ChefBoyardee ravioli out of a can, I thought I could give you some hope that women can experience Nonna's ravioli too! I receieved this from a reader, and I...