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Recent Posts
Why I Need to Listen More to Rebecca–Thoughts for Her Birthday
Today is my daughter Rebecca’s 29th birthday. And I want to take an opportunity to do something I don’t do nearly enough: tell you all how instrumental she is in everything that we do. But first, a story. She was around nine years old, and we were away on holiday at a...
PODCAST: Why Is Emerson Eggerichs Scared of Women Talking?
You're not going to believe what Emerson Eggerichs' idea of friendship is. We're in podcast 2 of a 3 podcast series, Let Men Be Men! Our thesis is a simple one: we believe that men can be emotionally healthy, competent, responsible people. We believe that men can, and...
Virginity Is Not a Synonym for Sexual integrity
Have we missed the boat on sexual integrity? I was hoping to do a series on honoring God with a new sexual ethic, but I overpromised. Keith and I have our marriage book due in March, and I’m frantically trying to write it, and I spent so much of Monday and Tuesday of...
Should You Get Married Because You Really Want to Have Sex?
Getting married to have sex is a really, really bad idea. Unfortunately, though, there are many hard-line patriarchal teachers, as well as many young people, who are adamantly saying that this is God’s design. When your sexual desires are too strong, you should just...
Purity Culture Is No Laughing Matter
So the Babylon Bee thinks purity culture backlash is worth mocking. For those who don’t know, the Babylon Bee is supposed to be a Christian satire site, like the Onion, where they have satire news stories. I must admit I used to think they were quite funny. As one of...
The “Let Men Be Men in 2024” Podcast
We often get accused of hating men. When we say that men weren't created to lust; that men can be emotionally healthy and can actually handle strong women, we're told that we don't like men. We don't think that's actually right. We believe that men can be emotionally...
Is Our Gospel Too Small? A Look at Luke 4
Something funny happened on two of the podcasts at the end of 2023. Both guests talked about the gospel in light of Luke 4. Both Scot McKnight and Andrew Whitehead, all on their own without prompting from me, summarized the gospel using Luke 4. They each had...
We Need a New Christian Sexual Ethic
What if the current Christian sexual ethic isn’t working? One of the big things to come out of our work evaluating the effects of purity culture is that our sexual ethic, the things that we taught teens about sex, is falling short. The way we’re teaching about sex is...
Top 10 Posts and Podcasts on Bare Marriage in 2023!
Let's review the biggest posts from 2023! Happy New Year, everybody! I'm so grateful to those who follow the blog diligently, but also excited about those of you who have just found me. And at the beginning of each year, I like to look back and see what posts made...