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Is Having the Husband Make the Final Decision a Harmful Shortcut in Your Marriage?
When we give husbands veto power, do we end up damaging intimacy? Often the best conversations on this blog don’t happen in the posts themselves, but in the comments. And today I wanted to share a comment that came in on one of Keith’s earlier “men’s corner” posts...
Start Your Engines: Your Wife’s Not Broken!
What happens when a couple gets married, and sex doesn't work well for her? Well, I'll tell you what often happens. The couple assumes that she doesn't like sex. That she doesn't enjoy sex. That she's just not sexual. And she feels broken, and he feels rejected, and...
Understanding Sex from a Woman’s Perspective
Can men understand sex from a woman's perspective? Or is there such a thing as a "man's perspective" and a "woman's perspective?" It's Keith (Sheila's husband) here again, for our monthly men’s corner! Every month, I try to write a post with some of my thoughts about...
On an Unbiblical View of Suffering, Wife Abuse, and Created To Be His Helpmeet
One of the most damaging and unbiblical "Christian" books on marriage is Debi Pearl's Created to Be His Helpmeet. Debi Pearl's view of submission teaches women to allow themselves to be abused, rather than teaches women to seek God's will, God's plan, and God's glory....
Should I Tell My Husband if I Fake Orgasm or Fantasize During Sex?
If you're faking orgasm or fantasizing while you make love, should you confess to your husband? Wow. That's a tough one! We're getting to the end of our sex questions series, and I wanted to tackle one that I haven't talked about in a few years. A woman asks:Should I...
My Husband Doesn’t Want to Use Birth Control
What do you do when you don’t want to get pregnant, but your husband doesn’t want birth control? We've been tackling difficult sex questions all month, and here's one I tackled a while ago, but I still get asked quite a bit. I thought it was worth re-running. A woman...
PODCAST EXTRAS: When Sex Problems Get Really Messy
What happens when you've got a problem with sex--but it's just so convoluted and messy? We've been talking all month about sex questions you can't ask your pastor, and our podcasts have focused on a ton of sex questions, including newlywed ones! But this week I want...
How Being a Breast Cancer Gene Carrier Affected One Woman’s Marriage–and Family
Some women carry a gene that makes it very likely they will develop breast cancer or ovarian cancer. What do you do when you get that diagnosis? Evelyn and I attended Queen's University in Kingston together. We met in September of first year at the IVCF (Christian...
How A Breast Cancer Fight Affects Intimacy
I get so many questions from women who are fighting breast cancer, or who have come through the other side, wondering what happens now? Have we lost intimacy? Will our marriage survive? I've watched many friends, my sister-in-law, and even my mother walk through...
Why Are So Many Sex Problems in Marriage So Hard to Solve?
When people write in with sex problems, one of the hardest things is that the problem is often not just one thing. It would be wonderful if, when people have problems with sex, it were one simple thing, like: "Our relationship is great and everything is wonderful but...