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The Emotional Labor and Mental Load Podcast!
Emotional labor and mental load take their toll on a marriage--because they often exhaust the wife. So many women experience this, and yet we don't really have a name for it. We know something is wrong, we feel guilty because we dream of getting away for just a day,...
Can We Pause and Just Lament Together?
What is happening in the United States right now, and around the world, is a wake up call and a time to lament. Yesterday I was on FaceTime with my oldest daughter Rebecca as she got her baby Alex out of his crib from a nap. He snuggled into her, and she was laughing...
EMOTIONAL LABOR: How the Fair Play System Helps Share Mental Load
How does the Fair Play system help you divide up mental load in marriage? We're just launching our June series about mental load, where we look at how to balance the mental work that goes into keeping the family together. Yesterday we looked at what mental load is,...
THE EMOTIONAL LABOR SERIES: Let’s Talk Emotional Labor and Mental Load
Mental load and emotional labor make women exhausted. We're starting our mental load and marriage series today, where every Monday in the month of June (as well as a bunch of podcasts and some extra posts) we'll be focusing on how to balance the mental load and grow a...
Perifit: The Video Game That Helps Your Pelvic Floor!
Thanks to Perifit for sponsoring today's post! We talk a lot on the blog about pelvic floor health, vaginismus, and postpartum sexual pain. Rebecca and Joanna (with whom I just finished writing The Great Sex Rescue, due out from Baker books next year!) both have had...
Start Your Engines Podcast: Do You Rush Through Foreplay?
Let's talk gender differences--and gender differences with foreplay! On the last Thursday of every month we like to do the podcast that's aimed more specifically at men (though women will enjoy it, too!). And this week Keith and I tackled the problem with overblowing...
Are Men from Mars and Women from Venus?
Are we overblowing gender differences? Are men from Mars and women from Venus? It's Keith on the blog today for our men's corner! It seems you can’t go to a marriage conference, or read a book on marriage or even have a conversation about relationships without at some...
9 Fast & Free Ways to Help Bloggers and Authors that You Love
Did you know there are small things you can do--things that cost nothing--that can really help bloggers and content creators that you love? Because it was my 50th birthday yesterday, I feel like this may be a good time to post this (like, here's what you can get me...
Sheila turns 50! A Thank You from Her Readers
For those of you who don't get the weekly newsletter, Sheila's 50th birthday is today!In the Friday newsletter last week I (Rebecca) sent out a request for birthday wishes and wow--we got a lot! Sheila started this blog in 2008. That's twelve years of doing this....
What Can We Learn from the French (or the Italians!) about Sex?
What makes a culture good at sex? Now that things are calmer and the book is in, I want to get back to highlighting a comment or two from the blog in the Friday post each week. (Okay, we had a close call with Rebecca and Connor’s yorkie Wednesday so… maybe not so...