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PODCAST: The 93% Myth That Fathers Matter MOre than Mothers
What happens when churches make up a ridiculous stat--and spread it? Ever heard the stat that when fathers come to Christ first, in 93% of families the wife and kids follow, but when wives come to Christ first, it's only 17%? It's been quoted by J.D. Greear when he...
The Evangelical Sex Report Card
What quality of sex do evangelical couples tend to have? This was one of the questions that we set out to answer when we launched our ground-breaking survey to 20,000 married evangelical women and our followup survey with 3000 evangelical men. We used the data from...
Where Can I Find a Good Counselor if the Church is Toxic?
Recently, I received a question from a reader about how to find a good counselor“I really need help knowing how to find the right kind of counselor. We have one but he is caught up in the traditional Christian stuff about men's problems being lost etc. I'm also...
Does Spanking Actually Work?
Does spanking help kids obey? Yesterday on the Bare Marriage podcast I had an amazing conversation with David and Amanda Erickson about their new book The Flourishing Family. One thing I especially appreciated about their book is that they brought in the data about...
PODCAST: The Flourishing Family (Healthy, Evidence-Based Parenting Advice!)
Christian parenting advice is full of toxic teachings we need to ditch! It's not just marriage and sex where a lot of Christian teachings have gone wrong. It's also with parenting. Instead of teaching parents to connect with their kids and discipline in a way that...
The Marriage You Want Is Available for Pre-Order
Our new marriage book is available for pre-order! The Marriage You Want is out in six months! But you can pre-order it now!For years, one of the most frustrating emails I’ve gotten is someone asking for a recommendation for a marriage book. And I haven’t had anything...
How Do I tell My Husband I’ve Never Enjoyed Sex?
What do you do if you've never enjoyed sex--but you've been having it anyway? What if you've been married for years but sex has never felt great, but you've been "fulfilling his needs." And now you're getting tired of it and you want that to change? Or what if you've...
Are You Trying to Reach Orgasm Backwards?
Maybe orgasm is elusive because we're going about it wrong. I’m pretty sure that when most people start The Orgasm Course, they’re going to head right to Module 4. That’s where we talk about sexual technique and how to figure out arousal and orgasm. That’s where we go...
PODCAST: All About Orgasms–and Closing that Gap!
It's time to talk about orgasms! We spend a lot of time on the Bare Marriage podcast and blog talking about what's gone WRONG in evangelical teaching. But we also want to teach how to make things go right. Four years ago, after we had finished our research for The...
5 Ways Husbands Can Bridge the “Orgasm Gap”
Hi, everyone! This week we're talking about orgasm--because it matters! We spend a lot of time on the blog talking about where teaching has gone wrong and made our marriages and sex lives worse. But we've also created a ton of content, including courses, that teach...