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One Woman Shares How Being Spanked as a Child Affected Her Sexually
The harm from spanking doesn't always come from the spanking being done in anger, or by terrible parents. Sometimes the harm comes from good parents who spanked "in love", exactly how the church taught them to. When I wrote about the harms from spanking a few weeks...
PODCAST: Why John Piper Should Stop Talking about Marriage
Recently John Piper had a podcast telling a woman how to deal with a "harsh" husband. It was atrocious advice--especially since women in emotionally abusive relationships would listen to this advice and think that it pertained to them (since most women in abusive...
The Sexual Element in Spanking Children: Let’s Ask the Uncomfortable Questions
Can we talk about something hush hush? What if spanking kids is also a form of sexual assault? Hear me out on this one, okay? I've shared a number of social media posts and podcasts about spanking lately, including what the large meta-analysis of 160,000 children...
Does Every Marriage Need a Captain? Do Husbands Need to Make the Decisions?
Do marriages need someone to be in charge? And what does it mean if you assume that they do? Last week Alistair Begg, a big speaker and theologian, posted this on social media:I could say so much about what's theologically wrong with this statement, but I'd encourage...
Do We Understand the Power of a Responsive Libido?
Just because you have a responsive libido doesn't mean you don't have a libido! I make this point repeatedly in our revamped Boost Your Libido course that launches next Monday, but I really want to drive this home today: Just because you don't have what we call a...
Break the Cycle: Learn Positive Discipline with Kids, Rather than Punitive Control
We know that parenting is the biggest responsibility we will ever have. But we've been told such different things about the nature of that responsibility. If you grew up in an evangelical church, chances are you were told that a parent's job is to teach them to obey,...
Escaping a Sex Cult: Alyssa Wakefield’s Podcast Episode, Part 2
Let's face the fact that fundamentalist Christianity in North America is basically a sex cult. That's Alyssa Wakefield's conclusion in Part 2 of her story on the Bare Marriage podcast! Listen to last week's episode, where she explains how she was groomed to obey her...
The Dad Edge Podcast and Mental Load–and More!
A lot of my time every week is spent giving interviews for other people's podcasts! Yes, I record the Bare Marriage podcast (and don't miss Part 2 of Alyssa Wakefield's story about being groomed for an abusive marriage, which drops tomorrow!). But I also record a...
John Piper Tells Women with Harsh Husbands–to Basically Do Nothing
On Friday on his podcast, John Piper told a woman married to a harsh husband to just be gentle with him. Pray more. Remember it might be his personality. Win him with kindness. Show appreciation and call out the good in him. And don't talk to other people about it...
What Are the Brakes and Accelerators for Your Libido?
Sex is supposed to be a great gift from God--and most of us would love to experience it as that great gift! But often we never seem to want it. We want to want it--but our bodies don't seem to cooperate. Our minds don't seem to cooperate. We wish we could feel more...