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The 5 Love Styles and the Attachment Styles Dance
Our attachment style that we learn in childhood affects our "love styles" as adults. I'm a big fan of the book How We Love by Milan and Kay Yerkovich. It's one of the few Christian marriage books that I can recommend wholeheartedly. How We Love is based on...
Sexual Pleasure: Why Equality of Effort Won’t Get Us There
Just a super quick post today on why "equality" sometimes misses the boat when it comes to sexual pleasure. I use Tuesdays either to take a day off from writing the blog, or to share something super quick that's on my mind and I just want to write it out. I'm hoping...
Your Kids May Have Attachment Issues; That Doesn’t Mean It’s Your Fault
When my daughter Rebecca was 19 months old, her baby brother died. He was only a month old. We learned when I was about 5 months pregnant about his heart condition, and that things would be very touch and go. We spent the last four months of the pregnancy petrified of...
Should Matt Chandler Be Joking about Whipping His Kids? Plus Fill Up Your Podcast Queue!
Yesterday on the podcast we looked at the metaanalysis about spanking, and talked about gentle parenting. That metaanalysis of 160,000 children found that spanking was either neutral or negative, but not positive. Like if you parent well in other areas, you can blunt...
PODCAST: How to Misuse Statistics for Dummies
Our passion is to get evidence-based advice about marriage, sex and parenting into the hands of Christians. But that means that we have to use science well! In the last of our three podcasts with Joanna where we talk stats, we tackle a few more ways that research is...
ATTACHMENT SERIES: The 4 Attachment Styles and What They Mean
This month we're going to talk about attachment styles and why they matter! Attachment styles are the way that we relate to other people, and they're based on what we learned when relating to our earliest caregivers. The field really took off in the 1950s studying...
Should We Teach Kids They’re Dirty Rotten Sinners?
Christian parenting advice seems to really like discipline and obedience. Rebecca here on the blog today. As I was researching other parenting books and various Christian parenting blogs as I wrote my book, Why I Didn't Rebel, this focus on repentance and obedience...
How Do We Make Sure These Two Horrific News Articles Stop Happening?
I read two terrible news articles over the weekend that had me grieving and got me all riled up. News article #1: A woman reports her rape to her Christian college, and is then is banned from campus for having pre-marital sex. NBC News explains what happened:When Mara...
On Kissing Before Marriage, Hilarious Reviews, and Horrifying Advice
On Fridays I like to take a look at what's been happening on social media this week, because often most of the writing/thoughts end up on Facebook or Instagram, and if you mostly read the blog you may miss them. So let's go: Let's talk Kissing Before Marriage! I...
PODCAST: Do You Know Your Attachment Style? with Krispin Mayfield
I'm so excited to be switching gears for a month to talk about attachment! I've been reading some books in the last year, and thinking and talking to people who are super smart, and I've become convinced that many issues in our marriages and spiritual lives are...