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Recent Posts
To Be Known and To Know: The Grace of Partnership in Marriage
I've been doing podcast interviews about our new book The Marriage You Want all over the place! And one that I landed last week was the Shifting Culture podcast. Its host, Joshua Johnson, wrote an article on his substack about my interview on his podcast, and I was...
PODCAST: Emotions Aren’t Feminine (and Men Should Be Emotionally Healthy Too)
Women aren't more emotional and men more logical That's the rhetoric that we often hear, but men are just as emotional as women--they just don't necessarily process those emotions as well. Chapters 7 and 8 in our new book The Marriage You Want are all about how to...
Should You Prioritize Sex? Why Frequency Is the Wrong Measure
You shouldn't prioritize sex in your marriage. That's how we open chapter four of our new book The Marriage You Want. Instead, we argue, you should prioritize the ingredients of great sex. I'm going to talking about this further in a FREE webinar with Jay Stringer...
Our Attitude to Women in MInistry is the Exception, Not the Rule
with thanks to Brazos Press and Becoming the Pastor's Wife for sponsoring this post My grandparents met in Bible college. It was the 1930s in Manitoba, and they were both approaching 30. They weren't fellow students, though. She was the teacher. My...
PODCAST: Are Romance Novels for Women the Same as Porn for Men?
Is it fair to compare romance novels to porn? Quite often in comment sections in our posts about porn, or even in pastor's sermons or various websites for single women, the topic of romance novels = porn will be raised. Men will often say, "sure, you call out guys for...
Is It Complimentarianism or Complementarianism? Why the Spelling MIstake is Apt!
Keith's joining me on the blog today with some thoughts about complementarianism--and the fact that the spelling mistake people often make is quite apt. I always appreciate when he shares his thoughts, and his posts always are among my most read for the month!I am...
Becoming a Pastor’s Wife: How Women’s Voices have Been Silenced in the Church
(Thank you, Brazos Press, for sponsoring this post! Our sponsors make what we do possible, and we are so excited to be able to endorse and promote this book.) Beth Allison Barr knows what it is to be pigeonholed because she’s a woman. To be told that even though she...
PODCAST: Becoming the Pastor’s Wife feat Beth Allison Barr
What if marriage has become the main path to ministry for women? Or really, the main option for women? (Thank you, Brazos Press, for sponsoring this episode of the Bare Marriage podcast! Our sponsors make what we do possible, and we are so excited to be able to...
You’re Invited to the Go….Be Free Webinar with Beth Allison Barr and Me
It's time to go...and be free! Yesterday was launch day for Beth Allison Barr's new book, Becoming the Pastor's Wife. It's the follow-up to her first book The Making of Biblical Womanhood, which we talked about on the podcast a few years ago! In Becoming a...