Welcome to our new website! 

It looks like you’re trying to find some content that isn’t available anymore. I (Sheila) have been blogging at To Love, Honor and Vacuum since 2008–that’s a lot of blog posts over the years! 

As we moved to Bare Marriage, we were picky about what content we brought over. The post you are looking for didn’t make the cut. However, there are still over 900 posts on this website so I am sure you can find something for your situation here!

Here’s where you can search for specific topics, or else see the latest on the blog:

Recent Posts

Our Attitude to Women in MInistry is the Exception, Not the Rule

Our Attitude to Women in MInistry is the Exception, Not the Rule

with thanks to Brazos Press and Becoming the Pastor's Wife for sponsoring this post My grandparents met in Bible college. It was the 1930s in Manitoba, and they were both approaching 30. They weren't fellow students, though.  She was the teacher.  My...

PODCAST: Are Romance Novels for Women the Same as Porn for Men?

PODCAST: Are Romance Novels for Women the Same as Porn for Men?

Is it fair to compare romance novels to porn? Quite often in comment sections in our posts about porn, or even in pastor's sermons or various websites for single women, the topic of romance novels = porn will be raised. Men will often say, "sure, you call out guys for...

PODCAST: Becoming the Pastor’s Wife feat Beth Allison Barr

PODCAST: Becoming the Pastor’s Wife feat Beth Allison Barr

What if marriage has become the main path to ministry for women? Or really, the main option for women? (Thank you, Brazos Press, for sponsoring this episode of the Bare Marriage podcast! Our sponsors make what we do possible, and we are so excited to be able to...

Is the Marriage You want a Guarantee?

Is the Marriage You want a Guarantee?

We're hoping The Marriage You Want can be a great clarifier. Our newest book, The Marriage You Want, was published last Tuesday, and it's doing well--the #1 new release in Christian marriage all week. Thank you for that! But I had a commenter say something important...

PODCAST: What Kind of Marriage Do You Actually Want?

PODCAST: What Kind of Marriage Do You Actually Want?

What if you could have the marriage you actually want? Our new book the Marriage You Want launched officially this week--and it's been #1 in top new releases in Christian marriage all week!  Thank you so much! Today Keith and I want to share our heart for the book,...

The State of Christian Marriage Publishing

The State of Christian Marriage Publishing

The Marriage You Want is now officially launched! I'm really excited about this book, because it's HEALTHY and I think it has the potential to upend the Christian marriage market and be disruptive (in a good way) like The Great Sex Rescue was. I told you a little bit...