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It looks like you’re trying to find some content that isn’t available anymore. I (Sheila) have been blogging at To Love, Honor and Vacuum since 2008–that’s a lot of blog posts over the years!
As we moved to Bare Marriage, we were picky about what content we brought over. The post you are looking for didn’t make the cut. However, there are still over 900 posts on this website so I am sure you can find something for your situation here!
Here’s where you can search for specific topics, or else see the latest on the blog:
Recent Posts
A Review of the Kingdom Girls’ Bible–It’s Awesome!
With thanks to Zonderkidz for sponsoring this post. When my girls were small, one of their biggest pet peeves with church was that they always did the same Bible stories. Whenever they went to summer camp, it would inevitably be: Daniel and the Lions’ Den David and...
PODCAST: The Well-Trained Wife with Tia Levings
What happens to your marriage when you get dragged into fundamentalism? Tia Levings went to a flagship SBC church. She wasn’t supposed to get sucked into fundamentalism. But Tia ended up being stuck in an abusive marriage, trying to fix things by following advice from...
How the Conversation about Lust Has Changed in Seven Years
Seven summers ago I told the truth about lust for the first time. I broke with the program. Up until then, my main focus on the blog had been how to have a good marriage and how to have a good sex life. But in June of 2017, I wrote a week on the blog about the...
Ballerina Farm, Gilded Cages, and Love vs. Ownership
Four months ago I had never heard of Ballerina Farm. When someone–I think my oldest daughter–told me about her social media account, I still couldn’t understand the name. It’s a farm for ballerinas? But as I’ve been hearing more and more about trad wife content,...
Libido vs. Thanatos When It Comes to Sex
Every Friday, around 42,000 people receive our weekly email, linking to all of this week’s posts and podcasts, with a summary, so people can make sure they don’t miss anything they’re interested in. The email is written by Rebecca–not me. And these are often just...
PODCAST: Modesty vs. Vanity–Have We Picked the Wrong Side?
What if the way we talk about modesty makes it impossible to talk about vanity? When we spend so much time telling girls what they should look like and how they should dress, can we even address vanity? Or when we spend so much time praising women for being "smokin'...
When Modesty Rules Make Drowning More Likely
Swimming in regular clothing increases the risk of drowning. Seriously–it’s not safe. Both my daughters were lifeguards as teens, and I still remember the training exercises they had to do when they jumped into the pool in normal clothing and then had to rescue...
How a Bad Bible Translation Left Indian Women Feeling inferior
Sexism on the mission field can do so much damage. In so many parts of the world, patriarchy is already baked in. Jesus should be rescuing us from that! But what happens when missionaries come in and teach about Jesus--but also bring patriarchy? Then instead of being...
When Deconstruction Means Losing Family
Deconstruction often means losing loved ones and becoming estranged from parents. We’re just finishing up our deconstruction series on the podcast, talking to four different people about different aspects of deconstruction. In several of our stories, a common theme...