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It looks like you’re trying to find some content that isn’t available anymore. I (Sheila) have been blogging at To Love, Honor and Vacuum since 2008–that’s a lot of blog posts over the years!
As we moved to Bare Marriage, we were picky about what content we brought over. The post you are looking for didn’t make the cut. However, there are still over 900 posts on this website so I am sure you can find something for your situation here!
Here’s where you can search for specific topics, or else see the latest on the blog:
Recent Posts
PODCAST: Breaking Free of Christian Patriarchy & Why people deconstruct
What's it like when your family starts out normal, but grows fundamentalist? Today on the podcast we're interviewing Cait West, the author of just a beautiful memoir, Rift. She talks about what it's like to grow up in a Christian patriarchal family, where her father...
What Does Justice Look Like for the Toxic Teachings in the Church?
Can there be justice for how the church has hurt people around marriage & sex? I was thinking about that question yesterday after episode 239 of the Bare Marriage podcast dropped, looking at the phenomenon of deconstruction. Specifically I was thinking about the...
PODCAST: Who Are The ExVangelicals? Feat. Sarah McCammon
Why do people deconstruct and become exvangelicals? Today on the Bare Marriage podcast author Sarah McCammon, an NPR journalist, joins us to talk about her experience with deconstruction, and what she learned interviewing so many people for her new book explaining the...
8 Things to Know about Religious Deconstruction and Exvangelicals
Deconstruction is a key term in evangelicalism that nobody knew 10 years ago. It’s a growing movement, and it’s largely misunderstood. I’m dedicating four podcasts to deconstruction, starting tomorrow. We'll begin with Sarah McCammon talking about her book...
What If Toxic Teachings Hadn’t Shaped Your Faith?
I grew up believing God was chronically disappointed in me. I knew He loved me, absolutely. But I also pictured God kind of like a self-help magazine cover: 7 Ways You Could be More Disciplined; 4 Ways You Could Be Getting More Things Done; 3 Ways You Could Stop...
The Problems with Lies Young Women Believe: With One Sheet Download
One of the things we're passionate about on this blog is making sure the self-help and relationship advice in the evangelical world is healthy. Over the last few years, our team has surveyed over 32,000 people, measuring how certain teachings common in the evangelical...
PODCAST: The Problems with the Book LIes Young Women Believe
Lies Young Women Believe is a dangerous book to use in teen girls' book studies. Yet it is still frequently used! Last season we took a look at Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth's book Lies Women Believe, and showed how it was harmful. Many people then asked us to tackle Lies...
When I Am Accused of Being Anti-Man…
Something interesting happened this Father's Day. I had so much fodder for a podcast--a terrible post by Focus on the Family telling women to "frame" their husbands as heroes, rather than telling men to act like heroes; a terrible postcard sent out by a Baptist church...
Why “Is it Biblical” May Miss the Big Issues in the Bedroom
What if we’re asking the wrong questions about what to do in the bedroom? Does God have a spreadsheet of all the possible sex acts that two people could do together, with checkmarks or X’s beside each one? Sometimes it seems like that’s what we think. When I give my...