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Recent Posts
My Response to the Harrison Butker Commencement Speech
I’ve been asked what I thought of Harrison Butker’s commencement speech, and here goes! So many people, while I was on vacation, sent me that commencement speech that I know you’ve seen. Harrison Butker, kicker for the Kansas City Chiefs,, was invited to give the...
PODCAST: Do We Need To Frame Dads As Heroes?
father's day is coming! And it is a day for celebrating all of the wonderful fathers in our lives, and the work that they do and the love that they show for their families. And what a wonderful time to lift them up. We have several wonderful fathers in our family who...
What Mica Miller Teaches Us About Revenge Porn and Abuse
At the end of April, Mica Miller died in very suspicious circumstances. She had been married to pastor JP Miller, and there were what look to me like credible allegations of abuse. She had been asking people for help, and had recently filed for divorce and a...
The “Chew the Meat and Spit out the Bones” Toxic Approach to Books
Should you read Christian self-help books that are a little bit harmful? Recently I posted an Instagram reel taken from the podcast I recorded with Natalie Hoffman and Gretchen Baskerville about the book Lies Women Believe.Here’s what I said:That is a big thing. And...
Why Equality Is a Huge foundation of Danish “Hygge” (Happiness)
What if equality is a prerequisite to happiness? I started this week, as I'm back from vacation, talking about the Danish concept of "hygge", or coziness and hominess. It's one of the reasons that Danes are consistently among the most happy nations on earth (and...
PODCAST: The Sex Talk You Never Got feat. Sam Jolman
What if purity culture didn’t just steal sexual health from women, but stole it from men too? What does it mean for a man to have healthy sexuality? Today licensed counselor Sam Jolman joins us for The Sex Talk You Never Got. He's got an amazing new book out that...
Is It Wrong to Be Attracted to the Person You’re Going to Marry?
Is sexual attraction outside of marriage a sin? Honestly, this is a strange discussion, but I'm not the one who started it. Jared Moore, an SBC pastor, started a kerfuffle on Twitter last year when he said that even being attracted to someone that you're engaged to is...
A “Hygge” Marriage: What the Danes Can Teach Us about Happiness in Marriage
The Danes can teach us a lot about how to be happy in marriage! I am back from three weeks offline (which was amazing, and which I desperately needed), and during that time my mother and my husband and I took a cruise of Northern Europe, spending time in Denmark and...
Why Do People Have Affairs? New Research!
This new research about cheating is fascinating. It was published online just on Tuesday, and I've already incorporated it into the marriage book we're editing right now that's due at the publishers next week! But listen to this:The evidence from this study exposes...