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As we moved to Bare Marriage, we were picky about what content we brought over. The post you are looking for didn’t make the cut. However, there are still over 900 posts on this website so I am sure you can find something for your situation here!
Here’s where you can search for specific topics, or else see the latest on the blog:
Recent Posts
PODCAST: Are We Creating a Strawman out of Complementarianism?
Who is really a complementarian? Just when we think we're finished arguing something, another critique pops up. And honestly--we had SUCH FUN doing this podcast! Keith and I planned it for several days beforehand, going over all the arguments we wanted to use. But it...
The 72-Hour Rule Isn’t a Thing: How Evangelicals Coerced Women into Sex Every 72 Hours
The 72 Hour Rule is Made Up by Evangelical Authors. Yep. This month on the blog we're "fact checking" common sex beliefs, and one of the biggest ones in evangelical circles is the 72 hour rule: the idea that a wife must have sex with her husband every 72 hours,...
FACT CHECKED IT: Are Blue Balls Real?
Is there really such a thing as “blue balls”? This month I want to start a new series on the blog called “Fact Checked it For You”, where we look up some of the most common outrageous claims made about sex, and see if they actually stand up to scrutiny. We’ll be...
Welcoming a New Member of the Family!
My baby had a baby! As some of you may know, I have two daughters. One is quite visible on the blog and podcast--Rebecca, my oldest. She's co-authored both The Great Sex Rescue and She Deserves Better with me, and we talk frequently about her two little ones. Katie's...
PODCAST: What We’ve Learned Now That Great Sex Rescue Turns 3!
A lot has surprised us in the three years since Great Sex Rescue was published! Today on the Bare Marriage podcast the three authors--Joanna Sawatsky, Rebecca Lindenbach, and me--all discuss what has surprised us and what we've seen since The Great Sex Rescue was...
Bible Baptist Tabernacle: The Pastor Who Said Women in Shorts Deserve To Be Raped
A few weeks ago, a North Carolina pastor went viral for saying men can’t help but rape. Here's Julie Roys' first tweet about it, with the embedded video, that blew up: Talking about women dressing in shorts: "If you dress like that & you get raped & I'm on the...
What if the 5 Love Languages Are Junk Science?
Do the 5 Love Languages stand up to scientific scrutiny? In January of this year, an article was published and was called Popular Psychology Through a Scientific Lens: Evaluating Love Languages From a Relationship Science Perspective in the Psychological Science...
The Question That Haunts Me 35 Years Later
Scott was a seriously cute Australian whose accent made me swoon. I was 18-years-old, and attending Capernwray Bible college in England for a semester before I started at Queen’s University the following year. And I spent the first few weeks trying to get Scott’s...
PODCAST: Do You Even Want This Kind of Marriage?
What if...the people we listen to for advice are more likely to be being abused? And what if the couples held up as ones to emulate by organizations like Focus on the Family are actually in really destructive relationships? This was a sad one for me to record, because...