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As we moved to Bare Marriage, we were picky about what content we brought over. The post you are looking for didn’t make the cut. However, there are still over 900 posts on this website so I am sure you can find something for your situation here!
Here’s where you can search for specific topics, or else see the latest on the blog:
Recent Posts
The Christmas Message when You Feel Small, and the Task Is Too Big
Are visions of sugarplums dancing in your head yet? We are in the midst of that season of imagination, of wonderment, and, of course, of desperately rushing around at the last minute hoping a good gift idea for your mother-in-law magically pops into your head. Besides...
How a Peer Reviewed Journal Gave Me an Unexpected Christmas Gift
Sheila here! Our team got some good news recently, and Joanna Sawatsky (one of the co-authors for The Great Sex Rescue and She Deserves Better, who leads up the research side of what we do) wanted to share it with you today!We at Bare Marriage have had a big year. We...
Dear Great Sex Rescue Critics: Here’s What We Actually Teach
Are we ignoring the Bible when it comes to sex? As Bare Marriage and our books are getting better known, it’s inevitable that pastors and authors who are wedded to the view of sex that centers on male entitlement and female objectification will start to push back....
How The Great Sex Rescue Changed This Couple’s Sex Life
Everyday I get emails, comments, and DMs about how our books are changing lives. Before we wrote The Great Sex Rescue and She Deserves Better I had written several other books. But the reaction is so starkly different. I’m hearing over and over again about lives...
PODCAST: Pivoting to a Healthy Church
Can we really make a change towards a healthy church? For the last few weeks we've been looking at church trauma and how the church has gone off track. I wanted to end 2023 with the lats podcast of the year looking at how we can actually be a force for good, and...
On Encouragement & Feeling Humbled
Sometimes I feel like I'm writing into the void. I sit in my comfy yellow chair in my living room, and I just write what I'm thinking about, or what Rebecca and I have been talking about on walks, or what Keith and I have been discussing. I know people read because we...
10 Ways to Create Memories with Extended Family this Christmas!
ARE YOUR CHRISTMASES WITH EXTENDED FAMILY OFTEN, QUITE FRANKLY, BORING? When I was younger I loved Christmas. It brought family, which meant having other children to play with and to sleep over–it was the best part of my year. Unfortunately, my grandparents were both...
When the Church Ignores Women’s Expertise
One of the last places in Western society that is openly and proudly sexist is the conservative Christian church. I find this quite infuriating. Other places may end up acting in a sexist way, but when push comes to shove, they’d have to deny it or make it right, or...
PODCAST: When Religion Hurts You feat. Laura Anderson
Can church actually cause religious trauma? Today on the podcast I'm talking with Dr. Laura Anderson, an expert in the complex trauma that we often find in religious circles. You can't necessarily point to one particularly bad thing; but it's all of these little...