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It looks like you’re trying to find some content that isn’t available anymore. I (Sheila) have been blogging at To Love, Honor and Vacuum since 2008–that’s a lot of blog posts over the years!
As we moved to Bare Marriage, we were picky about what content we brought over. The post you are looking for didn’t make the cut. However, there are still over 900 posts on this website so I am sure you can find something for your situation here!
Here’s where you can search for specific topics, or else see the latest on the blog:
Recent Posts
The Problems with Lies Women Believe by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth (with Download)
ONE OF THE THINGS WE’RE PASSIONATE ABOUT ON THIS BLOG IS MAKING SURE THE ADVICE THAT IS GIVEN ABOUT MARRIAGE AND SEX IN THE EVANGELICAL WORLD IS HEALTHY. Over the last few years, our team has surveyed over 32,000 people, measuring how certain teachings common in the...
PODCAST: The Problems with Lies Women Believe
It's time for a deep dive into Lies Women Believe! ** Scroll down to receive the downloadable one sheet (look for the box to enter your email! ** As you all know, I have a deep concern that many resources offered to women in the evangelical world are deeply unhealthy...
How One Woman Had an Orgasm Breakthrough after 16 Years
Sheila here! As we've been talking this week about new research showing that for many women, sex is like ChefBoyardee ravioli out of a can, I thought I could give you some hope that women can experience Nonna's ravioli too! I receieved this from a reader, and I...
NEW RESEARCH SERIES: Is Sex Like Bad Ravioli?
What if men and women experience sex differently? This month, our series on the blog is going to focus on some new studies that have recently been published in peer reviewed journals. We like keeping up with research, and we shared four new studies on the podcast last...
We Have Paid Research Opportunities for Grad Students and Professors
We're looking for academics who want to work with us--and get published! (This post doesn't apply to everyone who read the blog--but if you know a professor or a grad student who may be interested, please send them this link!) As you all know, for years we've been...
PODCAST: Why Sex Is Like Chef Boyardee–And Other New Research Findings
We've got four new peer-reviewed studies on marriage and sex for you today! We keep a folder of all kinds of new studies that come out that we find interesting, and I've been searching for a bunch lately as Keith and I are currently frantically writing our new...
6 Reasons the Tone Policing Argument Against us Fails
“People would listen to you more if you weren’t so angry!” I hear this a lot. Or else it’s, “People just aren’t able to hear you because of your tone. I can’t share your stuff because they’d just tune you out.” And then there’s the inevitable, “I liked you better when...
The WORST Reason Not to Divorce Your Wife
Sheila here! Every Friday, our email goes out to about 45,000 people, and Rebecca writes it, not me. And it's usually just awesome. Last week's email was special, coming at the end of a big week where we had lots of engagement around our podcast on the pathetic way...
Why Do We Ask Women to Choose Between Being a Good Wife or a Good Mom?
Why are we asking women to choose between being a wife and being a mom? One of the themes that pops up often in evangelical marriage literature is warnings to women not to be a mom first and a wife second. It's in almost all of Gary Thomas' books. I used to teach it!...