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Recent Posts
10 Ideas for Church Women’s Events that Women Will Actually Enjoy
Do you find that women's events are often boring--or irrelevant? Every now and then I write something on social media to just start a conversation and it blows up in ways I totally wasn't expecting. That happened last week, when I really hit a nerve, and hundreds of...
Our Marriage Survey is Ready!
Our new marriage survey is all ready to go, with ethics approval and everything! And here’s Joanna Sawatsky, our intrepid stats person and co-author of The Great Sex Rescue and She Deserves Better, to tell you all about it and invite you to take it!For years, Sheila...
Can We Make Room for Women in Church Who Don’t Fit the Stereotype?
What if you’re not a stay-at-home mom? I’m processing a lot about the book Stained Glass Ceilings by Lisa Swartz that we talked about yesterday on the podcast. In it, one of Lisa’s big questions was how different faith expressions handle gender, and she studied two...
PODCAST Stained Glass Ceilings: How the Church Does Gender feat. Lisa Swartz
How do egalitarian and complementarian seminaries differ in how they do gender? Stained Glass Ceilings by Lisa Weaver Swartz is a fascinating book. She interviewed people at two different seminaries--Asbury Seminary and Southern Baptist Theological Seminary--to see...
The ESV Bible Translation is Terribly Sexist–and It Was Designed to Be!
The ESV is a sexist Bible translation. And they even said that when they were translating it! It was commissioned in order to counteract the TNIV translation, which tried to be gender neutral in all places where the Greek was gender neutral, replacing words like "men"...
It’s Not All Sin: The Problem with Over-Spiritualizing our Problems
Sin isn't the cause of all the bad or counterproductive things we do. And blaming it on sin does harm. When you have the wrong diagnosis, you're going to have the wrong solution. And that can actually compound the problem. One of the issues with Christianity over the...
Are 70% of Divorces Really Caused by Women Divorcing Frivolously?
Are women getting divorced frivolously, for no reason? For some reason, there’s been a big uptick in social media accounts quoting two statistics: Women initiate 70% of divorces 75% of women cite lack of commitment as the reason for divorce The commentary around this...
PODCAST: Are 70% of Divorces Due to Women Leaving for No Reason?
Are women divorcing left and right for no reason? Lately I've seen an uptick on social media sharing two "facts": Women initiate 70% of divorces In 75% of those divorces, "lack of commitment" is the reason for divorce The conclusion being made is that women are fickle...
How Churches Treat Women Who Divorced for Abuse
Divorced women are not finding evangelical churches to be welcoming places. Despite the fact that many women endured years of trying to make their marriage work even in the presence of their husband’s abuse, infidelity, or substance abuse, when the divorce is...