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As we moved to Bare Marriage, we were picky about what content we brought over. The post you are looking for didn’t make the cut. However, there are still over 900 posts on this website so I am sure you can find something for your situation here!
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Recent Posts
PODCAST: If Men Are Leaders, Why Do They Need Women to Fix Them?
Ever noticed how much evangelical marriage advice treats men like little boys? And the solution that helps men mature and grow up is women? But then these same books turn around and tell you he's the leader? So basically men aren't capable of being mature and making...
The Story of Two Pastors Defending Marital Rape
I'm often surprised what sexist pastors will say in public comments on social media. This week I've been posting quite a bit on Facebook about the story I shared in Monday's post where the Navigators' material justified marital rape. We've had multiple posts and...
How The Navigators Normalized Marital Rape
Let's look at how specific discipleship materials actually enable marital rape. But first, a bit of background. Last week on my Substack I re-ran a post I wrote a few years ago on this blog about the two kinds of marital rape (here's the Substack post and the original...
PODCAST: What Would Accountability for Purity Culture Authors Look Like?
Will we ever hear an apology from Dannah Gresh and others? We're wrapping up our 3-episode arc on the Bare Marriage podcast this week, looking at how purity culture authors (and others!) are trying to rewrite history to make it seem as if they didn't say the harmful...
How Do You Measure the “Good Fruit” of Marriage Teaching?
Evangelical marriage teachers are changing the meaning of “good fruit” when it comes to marriage teaching—largely because of us. We’ve successfully shown through our studies of about 40,000 people that many evangelical teachings on marriage and sex bear bad fruit,...
PODCAST: Good Fruit–Are We Measuring It Right When it Comes to Christian Marriage Teaching?
How do you actually measure the "good fruit" of marriage teaching? Over the last little while, we've been criticized for saying that it's good fruit if marriages are happy, while ignoring the more important things like whether people are obeying Christ. That's...
Purity Culture Authors Need to Apologize. Here’s Why They Won’t.
We had four lawsuit threats the week that The Great Sex Rescue was published. Authors were upset that we had quoted their works and showed them in a bad light. Our publisher pretty quickly talked them down (after all, you can’t sue someone for quoting your exact...
PODCAST: Purity Culture Authors Are Rewriting History (Case Study of Dannah Gresh)
Dannah Gresh is Rewriting And the Bride Wore White. But is she apologizing for all the harmful things she wrote before? Is she acknowledging that she told 8-year-old's that their bellies are "intoxicating", which she defined as making adult men "out of control"? Is...
A Letter to SBC Women: It’s Time to Go
This has been a tough but clarifying week for the North American evangelical church. The Southern Baptist Convention, the largest Protestant denomination, voted 3-to-1 to further restrict the roles of women, limiting their ability to pastor or preach to congregations....