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As we moved to Bare Marriage, we were picky about what content we brought over. The post you are looking for didn’t make the cut. However, there are still over 900 posts on this website so I am sure you can find something for your situation here!
Here’s where you can search for specific topics, or else see the latest on the blog:
Recent Posts
Why Do People Have Affairs? New Research!
This new research about cheating is fascinating. It was published online just on Tuesday, and I've already incorporated it into the marriage book we're editing right now that's due at the publishers next week! But listen to this:The evidence from this study exposes...
PODCAST: Wolves, Chimpanzees, and Deer: Let’s Dissect the Alpha Male Myth
Let's talk Alpha Males! It's the last podcast of season 7, and we're going to be taking May off of the podcast and the blog so we can finish up edits on our book and take a bit of a vacation. But we thought, for this last podcast of the season, we'd wrap up what we...
The Bear Or Man Test–And What It Means About Masculinity
You've likely heard of the "Bear or Man?" Test If you were alone in the woods, would you rather come across a bear, or a man? It's been taking social media by storm, and women overwhelmingly have answered "bear", which has made many men angry. The reasons women have...
Does “Turn the Other Cheek” Actually Empower People?
Do you think the Bible teaches people to accept bad behavior? It can certainly seem that way! And one of the passages that is most often used to support that is the idea that we should “turn the other cheek.” I remember being in a Bible study at IVCF in university...
Do Women Really Not Want Sex? Let’s Talk About The 90% And the 10%
What’s the real reason many women don’t want sex? Whenever we talk about how sex should be mutual, intimate, and pleasurable for both and that the obligation sex message is toxic, the reply we get is something along these lines: without obligation, obviously, women...
PODCAST: Pastors’ Wives Spill the Tea on Church Life
Let's get real about Church life! Today we have some special guests on, the lovely ladies from Pastors' Wives Tell All! This is not the first time I've been on a podcast with them, but usually it's theirs. So this time they are joining me on my show to discuss the...
If We Want Healthy Churches, We Need to Take Risks
Sometimes finding a life-giving church means investing in building one. When our girls were tiny we lived in downtown Toronto, and attended an amazing Anglican church that was made up mostly of people who weren’t Anglicans. It was in a historic church building, with...
Let’s Stop Taking Advice from Men with a Pornified View of Women
When men reveal they objectify women–treat those men accordingly. One of the things that shocks me about evangelical culture is that a man can reveal that he has a really low view of women, or that he objectifies women or blames them for men’s sin, and that doesn’t...
Do New Brides Need Their Husbands to Teach Them about Sex?
Do men naturally know more about sex than women? On a recent Facebook post, still deeply bothered by that infamous clip from Josh Howerton, I asked this question, “Do we think men "naturally" know more about sex than women do? And that men are equipped to teach...