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As we moved to Bare Marriage, we were picky about what content we brought over. The post you are looking for didn’t make the cut. However, there are still over 900 posts on this website so I am sure you can find something for your situation here!
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Recent Posts
PODCAST: For the Love of Women feat. Dorothy Greco
Thank you to Zondervan and For the Love of Women for sponsoring this podcast! Have you ever heard people say, "sexism is a thing of the past"? Or maybe been in a conversation where someone has said, "sure, women used to be treated badly, but now it's men who are on...
Why Toxic Marriage Advice is Bad for Good Marriages Too: A Focus on the Family Case Study
Toxic marriage advice hurts those in abusive marriages. But it also hurts those in so-called good marriages–because bad advice is just plain bad advice. Here at Bare Marriage we often critique marriage advice that’s given in evangelical circles, showing how that...
What Does the Defence of Slavery Have to Do with Complementarianism?
with thanks to Zondervan and the book For the Love of Women for sponsoring this post. I remember the first time I heard a fellow Christian defend slavery. I was in my late thirties, and my husband Keith and I had been joking with “John” (who is now a pastor) about...
PODCAST: The 4 Types of Euphemisms With Sex That Drive Us Batty
Euphemisms about sex just make everything more difficult. And we want Christian pastors and authors to stop using them! And thank you to Zondervan and Dorothy Greco's For the Love of Women for sponsoring this podcast! Today's got some funny moments, but also likely...
Are You Feminine Enough for Your Uber Driver?
Women, are you helping the men around you be men? Last Friday, in our Round-Up video, Rebecca and I analyzed a new Desiring God article that was asking women to help men become better men. It was a pretty epic Friday round-up, and Rebecca wrote about it later in...
2-Step Plan to Tell if an Author or Pastor Is Qualified to Give Advice
We have a plague in the evangelical church of unqualified people giving dangerous advice. In our original study for The Great Sex Rescue (we’ve since conducted three more!), we identified four main teachings that do great harm--teachings which are not biblical, but...
PODCAST: Celebrating Episode 300 with The Best of Becca!
I can't believe we're 300 episodes in to Bare Marriage! We began the podcast in January of 2019, and for the first dozen or so episodes it was just me. We actually started two weeks before that fateful day that I read Love & Respect and changed the entire focus of...
Are We Heading for a New Reformation?
There's a deep rumbling in the evangelical church right now. I've been saying for the last few years that God is shaking the church--and I'm feeling that profoundly. Whenever I come to the end of a big project, and start something new, I get a little introspective and...
The 5-Point Faulty Foundation of Most Christian Marriage Books
In 2019 I started critiquing Christian marriage books. Until then, I had been writing and speaking in evangelical spaces, but I hadn’t read a lot of Christian marriage books. I figured, they love Jesus, I love Jesus, we’re all saying the same thing! But in January of...