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As we moved to Bare Marriage, we were picky about what content we brought over. The post you are looking for didn’t make the cut. However, there are still over 900 posts on this website so I am sure you can find something for your situation here!
Here’s where you can search for specific topics, or else see the latest on the blog:
Recent Posts
A Postmortem on the Damage a Marriage Book Can Do
How do Christian marriage books harm? We talk a lot at Bare Marriage about how Christian marriage books can harm people, often by teaching toxic things about staying in abusive marriages, giving sex on demand, or perpetuating teachings that we know are correlated with...
PODCAST: Did the Church Steal Your Sex Life? What If Church Isn’t Safe feat. Andrew Bauman
Is the Evangelical Church a Safe Place for Women? Today we're joined by Dr. Andrew Bauman, with his new book Safe Church, based on his research into women's experiences in church. He shares with us why so many women have been harmed in evangelicalism, from things like...
10 Differences Between a Roles-Based Marriage and a Partnership-Based Marriage
What if marriage could actually be a partnership? So much of Christian marriage literature is centered around the strange idea that God ordained wives to fulfill one role in the relationship (submission and housework), while men were created to fill another...
Lying for Jesus: When Did Truth Become UnChristian?
Have evangelicals abandoned truth? I've been on several dustups on Instagram lately about the same issue. Popular trad wife influencers are creating reels using the false stat that when dads come to Christ first, in 93% of cases the families follow, compared with...
Why Do Men Cheat? New Research Spotlight!
Let's look at some interesting new research studies on infidelity and more! Every now and then we like to do a research spotlight podcast where we pull a bunch of new studies and see what they say about the things that we talk about all the time here at Bare Marriage....
4 Reasons Church May Not Be a Safe Place for Women
These stories are adapted from the book Safe Church: How To Guard Against Sexism & Abuse in Christian Communities by Dr. Andrew Bauman. Art is done by Her Cherch. You can follow her work here, and check out HerCherch's merch at the Bare Marriage store!Here's Dr....
Why Do Evangelical Women Not Want to Marry Evangelical Men?
Are evangelical women hesitant to marry evangelical men? Rebecca and I talked about this on a podcast recently, but I’ve had so many emails since that I wanted to make sure we had this written out on the blog too! Plus I wanted to include a bunch of your comments! (I...
PODCAST: YOu Don’t Have to Iron Your Cheating Husband’s Clothes–Plus Ask Us Anything!
It's time to answer some questions--and draw some boundaries! We thought we'd do a rapid fire Q&A in today's podcast, and take some questions from the audience! So I pulled a bunch of questions from Instagram for Rebecca and me to answer. But first--Keith and I...
They Told Me I Was Equal, But Trained Me to Be a Subordinate
What impact does our new book The Marriage You Want have on people? I was recently tagged in a post on Substack by Joy LaPrade, a woman I've met on social media whom I first encountered through her interview on the podcast Bodies Behind the Bus. She shared how our...