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Ballerina Farm, Gilded Cages, and Love vs. Ownership
Four months ago I had never heard of Ballerina Farm. When someone–I think my oldest daughter–told me about her social media account, I still couldn’t understand the name. It’s a farm for ballerinas? But as I’ve been hearing more and more about trad wife content,...
Libido vs. Thanatos When It Comes to Sex
Every Friday, around 42,000 people receive our weekly email, linking to all of this week’s posts and podcasts, with a summary, so people can make sure they don’t miss anything they’re interested in. The email is written by Rebecca–not me. And these are often just...
PODCAST: Modesty vs. Vanity–Have We Picked the Wrong Side?
What if the way we talk about modesty makes it impossible to talk about vanity? When we spend so much time telling girls what they should look like and how they should dress, can we even address vanity? Or when we spend so much time praising women for being "smokin'...
When Modesty Rules Make Drowning More Likely
Swimming in regular clothing increases the risk of drowning. Seriously–it’s not safe. Both my daughters were lifeguards as teens, and I still remember the training exercises they had to do when they jumped into the pool in normal clothing and then had to rescue...
How a Bad Bible Translation Left Indian Women Feeling inferior
Sexism on the mission field can do so much damage. In so many parts of the world, patriarchy is already baked in. Jesus should be rescuing us from that! But what happens when missionaries come in and teach about Jesus--but also bring patriarchy? Then instead of being...
When Deconstruction Means Losing Family
Deconstruction often means losing loved ones and becoming estranged from parents. We’re just finishing up our deconstruction series on the podcast, talking to four different people about different aspects of deconstruction. In several of our stories, a common theme...
PODCAST: Spot the Propaganda and Logical Fallacies feat. Scott Coley
Is evangelicalism filled with propaganda? I'm not saying that Jesus is about propaganda, but rather that evangelicalism, in its current cultural form, is filled with people using the Bible to prop themselves up and keep themselves in power. And seriously--it's gotta...
Does Our Theology Let Girls Say No to Boys?
Are girls allowed to say a firm no to a boy? That seems like a ridiculous question, doesn’t it? Of course girls are allowed! But back up the truck, because this doesn’t seem to be what’s being taught to girls in evangelical circles, and I want to explore today WHY...
The Journey of Deconstruction Often Takes Time: How Not to Get Polarized
When we change our minds, we rarely do it all at once. Over the last decade, Keith and I have changed our minds about a lot of things. But we've done it at different rates, and it's been messy. We're pretty much at the same place today, but in some areas he beat me...
PODCAST: Hurt and Healed by the Church feat. Ryan George
What happens if church is the place of your greatest hurt? We're in our deconstruction series on the podcast, looking at different people's stories of deconstruction, and trying to honor all of them. What I really want to do is have people hear WHY people...