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PODCAST: Who Are The ExVangelicals? Feat. Sarah McCammon
Why do people deconstruct and become exvangelicals? Today on the Bare Marriage podcast author Sarah McCammon, an NPR journalist, joins us to talk about her experience with deconstruction, and what she learned interviewing so many people for her new book explaining the...
8 Things to Know about Religious Deconstruction and Exvangelicals
Deconstruction is a key term in evangelicalism that nobody knew 10 years ago. It’s a growing movement, and it’s largely misunderstood. I’m dedicating four podcasts to deconstruction, starting tomorrow. We'll begin with Sarah McCammon talking about her book...
What If Toxic Teachings Hadn’t Shaped Your Faith?
I grew up believing God was chronically disappointed in me. I knew He loved me, absolutely. But I also pictured God kind of like a self-help magazine cover: 7 Ways You Could be More Disciplined; 4 Ways You Could Be Getting More Things Done; 3 Ways You Could Stop...
The Problems with Lies Young Women Believe: With One Sheet Download
One of the things we're passionate about on this blog is making sure the self-help and relationship advice in the evangelical world is healthy. Over the last few years, our team has surveyed over 32,000 people, measuring how certain teachings common in the evangelical...
PODCAST: The Problems with the Book LIes Young Women Believe
Lies Young Women Believe is a dangerous book to use in teen girls' book studies. Yet it is still frequently used! Last season we took a look at Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth's book Lies Women Believe, and showed how it was harmful. Many people then asked us to tackle Lies...
When I Am Accused of Being Anti-Man…
Something interesting happened this Father's Day. I had so much fodder for a podcast--a terrible post by Focus on the Family telling women to "frame" their husbands as heroes, rather than telling men to act like heroes; a terrible postcard sent out by a Baptist church...
Why “Is it Biblical” May Miss the Big Issues in the Bedroom
What if we’re asking the wrong questions about what to do in the bedroom? Does God have a spreadsheet of all the possible sex acts that two people could do together, with checkmarks or X’s beside each one? Sometimes it seems like that’s what we think. When I give my...
My Response to the Harrison Butker Commencement Speech
I’ve been asked what I thought of Harrison Butker’s commencement speech, and here goes! So many people, while I was on vacation, sent me that commencement speech that I know you’ve seen. Harrison Butker, kicker for the Kansas City Chiefs,, was invited to give the...
PODCAST: Do We Need To Frame Dads As Heroes?
father's day is coming! And it is a day for celebrating all of the wonderful fathers in our lives, and the work that they do and the love that they show for their families. And what a wonderful time to lift them up. We have several wonderful fathers in our family who...
What Mica Miller Teaches Us About Revenge Porn and Abuse
At the end of April, Mica Miller died in very suspicious circumstances. She had been married to pastor JP Miller, and there were what look to me like credible allegations of abuse. She had been asking people for help, and had recently filed for divorce and a...