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As we moved to Bare Marriage, we were picky about what content we brought over. The post you are looking for didn’t make the cut. However, there are still over 900 posts on this website so I am sure you can find something for your situation here!
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Recent Posts
Jill Duggar’s Counting the Cost: When Christianity Has No Christ
I love Jill Duggar's authenticity in her new memoir Counting the Cost. I love Jill Duggar's (or Jill Dillard's!) growth that she shows in Counting the Cost. I love how Jill models getting help when you need it. I love how she obviously struggled to present a balanced...
Why Obligation Sex Wrecks Your Libido
Can feelings of sexual obligation affect your libido long-term? This month we're talking about obligation sex. We started last week by noting 10 things to understand about obligation sex, when I wrote the definitive post of everything that I tend to talk about with...
No More Power Struggles! Parenting with Discipline that Connects
We know that parenting is the biggest responsibility we will ever have. But we've been told such different things about the nature of that responsibility. If you grew up in an evangelical church, chances are you were told that a parent's job is to teach them to obey,...
PODCAST: Untwisting Toxic Views of Suffering feat. Rebecca Davis
Should we endure suffering because it makes us holy? We have a distorted view of suffering in the church today, and it keeps so many women feeling guilty for wanting to make their lives better. Why don't you just put up with what you've got, because look what Jesus...
OBLIGATION SEX SERIES: 10 Things to Know about Obligation Sex
Obligation Sex is the idea that a wife is obligated to have sex when her husband wants to. It’s that simple. It was one of the beliefs that we studied in our survey of 20,000 women for our book The Great Sex Rescue, and we found that when women believed this message...
Is Purity Culture Trauma?
Welcome to a new season on the Bare Marriage blog! We're about to begin a new series, starting tomorrow, on obligation sex--how to understand it and get over it. But before we do that, I received this great article by Dr. Camden Morgante (known as Dr. Camden around...
How the Billy Graham Rule Can Enable Sexual Abuse
Does the Billy Graham Rule protect against sexual abuse? On Monday on the blog we were talking about the Billy Graham rule, and how it can harm women. An interesting discussion started on Facebook about that post, and I want to follow up on one of the themes in that...
The Warning from South Korean Women to the Conservative Evangelical Church
South Korean women are reacting against sexism. Last week on the podcast, we highlighted how the culture in South Korea has been changing as women are being empowered in larger society. No longer are South Korean women left to rely on marriage and men to ensure they...
PODCAST: Barbie, South Korean Women, and the Evangelical Church
We finally saw the Barbie Movie! Keith and I, along with my mom and my son-in-law, went to see the Barbie movie last weekend! Rebecca and Connor saw it on opening night, but with vacations and sicknesses and other stuff Keith and I haven't been able to see it until...