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As we moved to Bare Marriage, we were picky about what content we brought over. The post you are looking for didn’t make the cut. However, there are still over 900 posts on this website so I am sure you can find something for your situation here!
Here’s where you can search for specific topics, or else see the latest on the blog:
Recent Posts
Is Hope Holding You Back? The Two Kinds of Hope
Tomorrow The Marriage You Want launches! I wanted to talk about it today, and do all kinds of fun things leading up to launch--but 10 days ago my father-in-law passed away, and the funeral was this weekend. We've been so busy and reeling as a family. And yesterday I...
PODCAST: Does Traditional “Christian” Marriage Lead to More Immaturity? Let’s See the Data!
What does immaturity have to do with complementarianism? We had a hard time trying to figure out what to call this episode, because we didn't want to be TOO controversial--but at the same time, the findings were super interesting. When we looked at the data from our...
Follow the Evidence Where It Leads…To The Marriage You Want
A big value at Bare Marriage is that we're evidence-based. I open my podcast every week with "we like to talk about "healthy, evidence-based, biblical advice." And our new book The Marriage You Want (which launches next Tuesday!!!) is totally evidence-based. We've got...
Are the WRONG People Getting the RIGHT Marriage Advice?
I’ve spent years trying to untangle the Christian marriage advice puzzle. When we started researching the best-selling marriage books when we were writing The Great Sex Rescue, we found, to our dismay, that the majority of them ended up giving really bad advice, that...
PODCAST: Is Caling Acts of Service a Love Language Missing Something HUGE? New Bonus Stats!
Is it a "love language" to do basic chores? When we wrote The Great Sex Rescue, one of the things that really bothered us was that evangelical marriage authors talked a ton about increasing the frequency of sex without ever mentioning the orgasm gap or sexual pain...
Is the “Acts of Service” Love Language Really a Cry for Help?
Is "Acts of Service" a real love language? Many of you may be familiar with the runaway best-seller by Gary Chapman The Five Love Languages, which argues that there are five different love languages, and we all have a preferred one: Acts of Service Gifts Words of...
Why Are Men Scared to Submit? Super Quick Rundown on Ephesians 5
Ephesians 5 calls husbands to submit too. But whenever we talk about men submitting, so many men take offense to that! I wrote up this super quick overview of Ephesians 5 on social media last week, and it went so big that I thought I'd post it here, too, so people...
PODCAST: What the Unfairness Threshold Tells us About Marriage (And Mental Load!)
What if there's a Bigger problem in marriage than sex or money? We always hear that the two biggest issues in marriage are sex and money, right? Wrong. One of our findings in our matched pair survey for our new book The Marriage You Want (out March 11!) that blew us...
Should Marriage Make You Holy or Happy?
Is marriage primarily about teaching you to be selfless and to grow like Jesus through suffering? I hope you would all say a resounding, “no!” We know that God thinks of marriage for our benefit–our emotional benefit, not just our character-transforming benefit. He...