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Podcast: Learned Helplessness & Sex

Podcast: Learned Helplessness & Sex

Can we have learned helplessness with sex?  As we talk more about how to get your sex life out of the pit that one, or both, of you have dug for yourselves, I want to talk about a concept discussed in psychology called learned helplessness (which can also lead to...

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How to Reclaim Your Sexual Autonomy in Marriage

How to Reclaim Your Sexual Autonomy in Marriage

If we want sex to be awesome, then we need to be able to feel like sex is for us too. We need to feel like we matter. Sex is supposed to be mutual, intimate, and pleasurable for both, and mutuality and intimacy means that you are both coming to the bedroom willingly,...

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Should We Follow Science or the Bible?

Should We Follow Science or the Bible?

When it comes to judging marriage advice, how do we figure out what's right? I've been following Robin on Twitter for a while now, blown away by her really insightful threads. She has a great substack where she writes thoughtful articles, and she's recently done some...

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