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PODCAST: SAVING FACE–Finding God, My Self, and Community with Aimee Byrd
Why does church hurt often leave us feeling so alone? Why do we study our Bibles and study our Bibles, and still feel distant from God and others? Aimee Byrd is joining us to talk about her beautiful new book Saving Face, which points us to the journey of true...
How Do You Make Decisions When You Disagree—Without a Tie-Breaker?
In marriage, should husbands make the final decision if the couple can’t reach agreement? Many Christians would say yes. In fact, in our survey of 20,000 women that we ran for The Great Sex Rescue, 39.4% of respondents agreed with that statement. Many Christians who...
Men’s Comfort vs. Women’s Safety: Why Evangelicals Need Nuance
Sheila here! Did you know that every Friday about 45,000 people get an email from us, written by Rebecca? And more people read her article than read anything I write on the blog or on Substack! It's usually really well thought out, and connects a lot of the different...
PODCAST: Why Are Evangelical women REfusing to Marry Evangelical Men?
Evangelical men can't get married. And it's all women's fault, according to Al Mohler, president of Southern Baptist Theological Seminary. It's a "crisis", a "five-alarm fire". It's bad. In his podcast "The Briefing", he recently did some commentary on a Wall Street...
Are Romance Novels Women’s Equivalent to Porn?
Is reading romance novels the same as watching porn? When I call out watching porn, I inevitably get some commenters (usually men) complaining that I don’t call out women reading romance novels. Both set up unrealistic expectations; both get people to focus on sex...
To Be Known and To Know: The Grace of Partnership in Marriage
I've been doing podcast interviews about our new book The Marriage You Want all over the place! And one that I landed last week was the Shifting Culture podcast. Its host, Joshua Johnson, wrote an article on his substack about my interview on his podcast, and I was...
PODCAST: Emotions Aren’t Feminine (and Men Should Be Emotionally Healthy Too)
Women aren't more emotional and men more logical That's the rhetoric that we often hear, but men are just as emotional as women--they just don't necessarily process those emotions as well. Chapters 7 and 8 in our new book The Marriage You Want are all about how to...
Should You Prioritize Sex? Why Frequency Is the Wrong Measure
You shouldn't prioritize sex in your marriage. That's how we open chapter four of our new book The Marriage You Want. Instead, we argue, you should prioritize the ingredients of great sex. I'm going to talking about this further in a FREE webinar with Jay Stringer...
Our Attitude to Women in MInistry is the Exception, Not the Rule
with thanks to Brazos Press and Becoming the Pastor's Wife for sponsoring this post My grandparents met in Bible college. It was the 1930s in Manitoba, and they were both approaching 30. They weren't fellow students, though. She was the teacher. My...
PODCAST: Are Romance Novels for Women the Same as Porn for Men?
Is it fair to compare romance novels to porn? Quite often in comment sections in our posts about porn, or even in pastor's sermons or various websites for single women, the topic of romance novels = porn will be raised. Men will often say, "sure, you call out guys for...