Keith and I have been in the RV for a week and I have made a significant discovery! First, though, I'm not going to have a normal post up today. I'm in vacation mode and couldn't think of anything about marriage to write about. Rebecca, however, has already written...
Let's talk about the echoes of menstruation. Yesterday on the podcast, we were discussing how Focus on the Family's PluggedIn movie review of Turning Red put references to preteen girls' periods under "sexual content", and warned that the title of the movie had an...
Vaginismus was a big part of the early story of my marriage. We were greeted on our wedding night by an inability to have intercourse because it hurt too much. I was expecting sex to hurt a little bit, but not like that. It caused so many hurt feelings on both sides....
Vaginismus plagues, to some extent, about 22% of wives. And for 7%, it makes penetration impossible. Vaginismus is a sexual dysfunction disorder where the muscles of the vaginal wall contract involuntarily (you're not deliberately causing it!), making penetration very...
What do you know about your pelvic floor? During the month of June we're talking about pelvic floor issues. We looked at postpartum recovery, what to expect from a pelvic floor physiotherapist appointment, and the main causes of vaginismus. Today, Bethany Peterson, a...
Why do some women develop vaginismus? In the month of June, I'm concentrating on pelvic floor issues, whether it's with postpartum pain or other sexual pain. I started off this series talking about why the pelvic floor matters, and what can go wrong. Today I want to...
If you decide you should go see a pelvic floor physiotherapist, what can you expect from the appointment? Yesterday we introduced our pelvic floor series, that we'll be doing throughout the month of June! So many of you on Facebook especially left some great comments...
We're about to embark in June on a series on the pelvic floor! When I first started writing about sex, I had no idea how much the pelvic floor impacted our enjoyment of sex, or even our ability to have sex. I thought of the pelvic floor more like my lungs--they're...
I opened up a huge can of worms when I posted recently about breastfeeding in church. Originally on Facebook, we were just talking about weird atmospheres in some evangelical churches where some guys refuse to even look at women because they may be dangerous and the...
Do men realize how much women have to be on their guard? Keith (Sheila's husband) here at the blog today for some thoughts for the guys. I recently heard a comedienne doing a routine where she observed that a man's greatest fear is that a woman will laugh at him and a...
Our bodies were not meant to stay the same throughout our lives. Certainly we grow older. But childbirth also has a profound effect. I had three babies in 2.5 years - it was a lot. And with pregnancy comes big changes to your body, many of which don't go away. Earlier...
At Bare Marriage, we've had a bit of a baby boom in the last two years. Joanna (my co-author for the upcoming book The Great Sex Rescue; she did all of our stats on our survey of 20,000 women!) started the ball rolling with her daughter Mariana. In fact, Joanna came...
We love Diva cups. They're awesome, and they can change your life. We're at the end of our period series this week. We've talked about the shame that we often feel as teens about our periods; how to help guys understand periods; when to call the doctor; sex and your...
Sometimes we don't realize when something about our period is abnormal. And we may need some help! On Mondays in August we're talking about periods, and how that affects our view of our bodies, our health, our sex life, and more. Last week on our podcast on periods...
Why is it that so often, when we talk about menstruation, it's seen as something bad that we have to fight against, rather than a natural part of our bodies? It's the end of the month that we've been talking about how to love your body, no matter its shape, if you've...