ONE OF THE THINGS WE’RE PASSIONATE ABOUT ON THIS BLOG IS MAKING SURE THE ADVICE THAT IS GIVEN ABOUT MARRIAGE AND SEX IN THE EVANGELICAL WORLD IS HEALTHY. Over the last few years, our team has surveyed over 32,000 people, measuring how certain teachings common in the...
Do women long to be rescued? I may have done a Fixed-it-for-you-too-far last night on social media, critiquing John Eldredge for calling women's souls "a bloody mess" in the book Captivating, that he co-authored with his wife Stasi. While most people agreed with me,...
Keith and I have been in the RV for a week and I have made a significant discovery! First, though, I'm not going to have a normal post up today. I'm in vacation mode and couldn't think of anything about marriage to write about. Rebecca, however, has already written...
Tired of painful Pap smears? Worried about your upcoming Pap test? Let's talk about how to make Pap smears more comfortable! We're at the end of our pelvic floor series for June, and we've been looking at the importance of the pelvic floor, postpartum pain, what...
Vaginismus is the main culprit when women experience painful sex. But it isn't the ONLY reason for painful sex. This month, for the pelvic floor series, we've been talking about painful sex and how to treat it, and looking at why evangelical women experience painful...
What happens when you develop vaginismus LATER--after you've already started having sex? How is this even possible? And can you get over it? That's what we're going to talk about today!We're in the middle of our pelvic floor series, and we've been touching on...
Vaginismus plagues, to some extent, about 22% of wives. And for 7%, it makes penetration impossible. Vaginismus is a sexual dysfunction disorder where the muscles of the vaginal wall contract involuntarily (you're not deliberately causing it!), making penetration very...
Do we know how to care for our pelvic floors? And why we should? We're in the middle of our pelvic floor series for June, where we talk about some of the things that can go wrong with the pelvic floor (like vaginismus or postpartum pain), and what to do about it! And...
What do you know about your pelvic floor? During the month of June we're talking about pelvic floor issues. We looked at postpartum recovery, what to expect from a pelvic floor physiotherapist appointment, and the main causes of vaginismus. Today, Bethany Peterson, a...
Why do some women develop vaginismus? In the month of June, I'm concentrating on pelvic floor issues, whether it's with postpartum pain or other sexual pain. I started off this series talking about why the pelvic floor matters, and what can go wrong. Today I want to...
We women need to give ourselves time--and allow ourselves to ask for help--when we're recovering from childbirth Recovering from childbirth isn't something that happens overnight, and it isn't something you can achieve through will power or just "doing what needs to...
If you decide you should go see a pelvic floor physiotherapist, what can you expect from the appointment? Yesterday we introduced our pelvic floor series, that we'll be doing throughout the month of June! So many of you on Facebook especially left some great comments...
We're about to embark in June on a series on the pelvic floor! When I first started writing about sex, I had no idea how much the pelvic floor impacted our enjoyment of sex, or even our ability to have sex. I thought of the pelvic floor more like my lungs--they're...
Can we listen to women's voices along with men's voices? We've got a whole variety of segments and interviews in today's EPISODE 99 of the Bare Marriage podcast, including asking "What would have happened if authors had listened to women?", a look at Genesis 3:16, and...
Did purity culture make you sexualize all relationships with the opposite sex? We've been talking a lot about youth group lately--what youth group was like before purity culture infiltrated it; how porn may be the new purity culture. We talked last week about how to...