10 Truths About Emotionally Destructive Marriages

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Aug 24, 2021 | Abuse

How can you tell if your marriage is emotionally destructive, or if it’s just a normal level of pain? I caused a firestorm on Facebook over the weekend when I asked whether we talk too much about how “marriage is hard”, and then when people are truly...

Emerson Eggerichs and the Gaslighting of Emotional Abuse Victims in a Sermon Series

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Mar 24, 2021 | Theology of Marriage and Sex

Last year, I looked at some rather alarming clips from some sermons Emerson Eggerichs–the author of Love & Respect–gave where he essentially gaslighted emotional abuse victims. I was prepared to let it go–I’ve talked about it, and...

On an Unbiblical View of Suffering, Wife Abuse, and Created To Be His Helpmeet

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jul 28, 2020 | Abuse

One of the most damaging and unbiblical “Christian” books on marriage is Debi Pearl’s Created to Be His Helpmeet. Debi Pearl’s view of submission teaches women to allow themselves to be abused, rather than teaches women to seek God’s...

Is It Okay if Christian Marriage Books are Just a Little Bit Harmful?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jan 14, 2020 | Theology of Marriage and Sex

How to Reconnect with Your Body if You’re an Abuse Survivor (or Trauma Survivor)

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Oct 4, 2019 | Abuse

When you’re abused, a common defense mechanism is dissociation–when you mentally “flee” your body and try to be anywhere but here. That helps you live through trauma. But it also creates a whole heap of problems down the road when you’re...