Apologies are wonderful to receive. And to be honest--I had given up hope that I would ever receive any. I've been calling out the harm of toxic teachings in the church for four years now, and asking the church to do what's right. In return, I've often been villified,...
What exactly does "purity culture" refer to? Our recent book She Deserves Better spends about half of its pages addressing many aspects of purity culture, that was so common in youth groups between 1995-2015, and shows how it deviated from the gospel and from what we...
She Deserves Better is officially launched, and we're doing so well! It's selling really, really well (we woke up to #140 on Amazon, which is INCREDIBLE), My mind is going in a million different directions this morning, and I'm elated, and I'm happy, and I'm actually...
Have we been selling our daughters an incomplete gospel? Let's do a thought experiment for a minute. Imagine everything you've been told the gospel is--about how Jesus saves, and what that means. Now imagine that you're actually Jesus (if that isn't too sacreligious...
I'm often accused of trying to swing the pendulum to the other extreme. This week, a commenter wrote about her husband who was accusing me of trying to make sex only about the woman. Because the husband now had to care if his wife was interested in sex, and now had to...
I'm supposed to be at the zoo today. My cousin and her daughter are visiting from out of town, and I cleared the calendar today so that I would be free to go the zoo. Rebecca and Connor and the kids and Keith were all available, and it was going to be a big family...
There's a thread that runs through the toxic teachings we've measured: Intimacy is a pipe dream. Now that we've done surveys with over 29,000 women, we can take a step back and look at the toxic teachings we've measured as a whole--the ones given to adult women about...
Denny Burk didn't like The Great Sex Rescue because we thought sex could be "egalitarian." Burk is the head of the Council of Biblical Manhood and Womanhood, and a professor at Boyce College at Southern Baptist Theological Seminary. He recently wrote an article where...
For the last week, social media has been debating whether David raped Bathsheba. It erupted anew when Owen Strachan, a staunch patriarchalist, called out abuse advocate and lawyer Rachael Denhollander, saying that she was wrong to say that the David/Bathsheba story...
Last week, Denny Burk accused us of being for women's pleasure rather than procreation. Burk is the head of the Council for Biblical Manhood and Womanhood, which defends extreme complementarianism (patriarchy), and thinks it's of God. He wrote an article addressing...
The Gospel Coalition published a crazy article about sex this week, and the internet blew up. It's been such a crazy two days I don't even know where to begin. It's actually quite unbelievable--except I saw it unfold in real time. I feel overwhelmed because there is...
Sheila here! Keith came on the blog today discuss biases and how they relate to evangelicals interpretations of the Bible, especially when it comes to women. No one reads Scripture in an unbiased way – especially the people that say they do. Does a person have the...
For Years, Every Man's Battle by Steve Arterburn and Fred Stoeker has been the best-selling evangelical book tackling sexual addiction. However, in our research over the years it has become clear that the book misdiagnoses the root of sexual addiction, and gives the...
Sheila here! My husband Keith came on to discuss his frustrations with claims of "being unbiblical" and not reading the Bible "plainly" while also ignoring what the Bible says plainly when it doesn't suit a personal belief. The Bible is seemingly filled with...
John MacArthur has sent abused women back to their husbands. It is horrific. Julie Roys broke a story last year about Eileen Gray. Twenty years ago she came to the church leadership at Grace Community Church for help for her abusive marriage. Her husband was abusing...