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As we moved to Bare Marriage, we were picky about what content we brought over. The post you are looking for didn’t make the cut. However, there are still over 900 posts on this website so I am sure you can find something for your situation here!
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Recent Posts
PODCAST: Incels vs. Pastors–“We Respond to Crazy Pastor Clips” Pallooza!
Let's take on some common horrid evangelical talking points! I thought, as we're getting to the end of the year, that Keith and I could spend a podcast just reacting to some of the common things we hear pastors say from the pulpit, or influencers say online. Often you...
Many Evangelicals Resemble Generic Fundamentalists More than Jesus Followers
Modern evangelicals are often closet fundamentalists. They may wear hip clothing, and they may try to sound "cool", but they often look far more like fundamentalists than they do like Jesus. This week on the Bare Marriage podcast (dropping tomorrow), Keith and I are...
What If the Church Emphasized Emotional Wholeness Rather Than Marriage?
Scripture does not say that our goal in life is to be married. If anything, 1 Corinthians 7 says the opposite, that people should remain single if they can. Marriage is nowhere mentioned as the main reason that God created us, and is certainly not mentioned as a...
PODCAST: What does the Plight of Missionary Kids Teach Us about The Church?
We need to listen to the stories of missionary kids. Holly Berkley Fletcher released an amazing book called Missionary Kids that I read all in one sitting. I was riveted. Holly grew up as a missionary kid. And she interviewed a whole bunch of missionary kids, some...
Why Do Women Often Create the Most Toxic Content?
Why is it that the worst messages are often shared by women? Why is it that it’s often social media accounts run by women, and books written by women, which are the most adamant about preaching obligation sex, women’s unilateral submission, women having subordinate...
What Stranger Things Has in Common with Bare Marriage
Is Stranger Things actually a good analogy? I was sitting here in my yellow chair trying to come up with an analogy I want to talk about today. I was originally thinking about spiders, and building webs. But that didn't seem quite right, because a web can be...
How A Comment Thread on A Social Media Post Represents A Masculinity Panic: Let’s Analyze!
Social media comments often give a sobering insight into what men are thinking. And today I'd like to show you what a thematic analysis of social media comments would look like! As you may know, we're quite busy behind the scenes drafting academic papers, some in...
PODCAST: Thalidomide, Bad Christian Marriage Books, and a Jesus Who Laughs
God is not just an angry magazine cover in the sky He's not there saying, "here's 7 ways you could smarten up so you don't disappoint me so much." But that's often how we picture God--so terribly disappointed in us! Today's American Thanksgiving, so lots of my regular...
How Can We Talk about Men’s Sexual Desire in a Healthy Way?
One of the most frequent questions I get from men is this one: How can I get my wife to understand my sexual needs? He feels like he’s in a sex-starved marriage, and he’s desperate for sex. But the more he talks about sex, the more his wife pulls away. What’s the...