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As we moved to Bare Marriage, we were picky about what content we brought over. The post you are looking for didn’t make the cut. However, there are still over 900 posts on this website so I am sure you can find something for your situation here!
Here’s where you can search for specific topics, or else see the latest on the blog:
Recent Posts
Why Do Men Cheat? New Research Spotlight!
Let's look at some interesting new research studies on infidelity and more! Every now and then we like to do a research spotlight podcast where we pull a bunch of new studies and see what they say about the things that we talk about all the time here at Bare Marriage....
4 Reasons Church May Not Be a Safe Place for Women
These stories are adapted from the book Safe Church: How To Guard Against Sexism & Abuse in Christian Communities by Dr. Andrew Bauman. Art is done by Her Cherch. You can follow her work here, and check out HerCherch's merch at the Bare Marriage store!Here's Dr....
Why Do Evangelical Women Not Want to Marry Evangelical Men?
Are evangelical women hesitant to marry evangelical men? Rebecca and I talked about this on a podcast recently, but I’ve had so many emails since that I wanted to make sure we had this written out on the blog too! Plus I wanted to include a bunch of your comments! (I...
PODCAST: YOu Don’t Have to Iron Your Cheating Husband’s Clothes–Plus Ask Us Anything!
It's time to answer some questions--and draw some boundaries! We thought we'd do a rapid fire Q&A in today's podcast, and take some questions from the audience! So I pulled a bunch of questions from Instagram for Rebecca and me to answer. But first--Keith and I...
They Told Me I Was Equal, But Trained Me to Be a Subordinate
What impact does our new book The Marriage You Want have on people? I was recently tagged in a post on Substack by Joy LaPrade, a woman I've met on social media whom I first encountered through her interview on the podcast Bodies Behind the Bus. She shared how our...
Saving Face: Aimee Byrd Writes to Heal Those Left Bruised by a Defaced Church
With thanks to Zondervan and Saving Face for sponsoring this post When I was seven years old I used to go on walks with Jesus. I was the only child of a single mother, and I was often quite lonely. But I took Jesus at His word when He said, “I have called you friend.”...
PODCAST: The Problems with The Love Dare, and Why It Just Papers Over REal Problems
The Love Dare by the Kendrick Brothers is a problematic book. As we talked about yesterday, it encourages people to paper over real problems, ignore abuse and infidelity, and gaslight yourself into thinking you're the problem. You can access our one-sheet download on...
The Love Dare by the Kendrick Brothers: A Review of the Problems (with Download)
Let's take a look at The Love Dare by the Kendrick brothers Do you remember the movie Fireproof? It had a book that went along with it--The Love Dare--and that book has been a huge best-seller for two decades. Today we're going to take a close look at it for a...
My Somewhat Scattered Easter Thoughts At the Margins
Theology doesn't save us. Doctrine doesn't save us. Resurrection saves us. (And transformation is the point!) I've been thinking about that ever since my podcast last week with Aimee Byrd, talking about her new book Saving Face, which is quite profound and lovely....