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It looks like you’re trying to find some content that isn’t available anymore. I (Sheila) have been blogging at To Love, Honor and Vacuum since 2008–that’s a lot of blog posts over the years! 

As we moved to Bare Marriage, we were picky about what content we brought over. The post you are looking for didn’t make the cut. However, there are still over 900 posts on this website so I am sure you can find something for your situation here!

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Recent Posts

How Bad Christian Marriage Advice Hurt a Good Couple

How Bad Christian Marriage Advice Hurt a Good Couple

You don't have to have a destructive marriage to be hurt by bad marriage advice.  We're ending up our series on Marriage Misdiagnosis, looking at how all too often Christian marriage advice misdiagnoses the problem, and gives the wrong solution. We've talked a lot...

PODCAST: Should Pastors Give Sex Advice?

PODCAST: Should Pastors Give Sex Advice?

What happens when pastors give sex advice, but they aren't trained to do so? This week's podcast we're talking about a big question: is it ever useful to expect pastors to give specific sex advice? What is a part of the pastor's job, and what simply isn't? If you want...

Is Your Pastor a Shepherd or a Hired Hand?

Is Your Pastor a Shepherd or a Hired Hand?

Some pastors are not simply unsafe; they are downright dangerous. And some church elder's boards, church's women's ministries, and denominations in general are downright dangerous. We had a horrible example of that earlier this month when John Piper posted a terrible...

How Do I Know if I’m Being Abused?

How Do I Know if I’m Being Abused?

How do you know if you're being abused? One of the hardest parts of blogging is reading so many heartbreaking emails and comments that come in from people in truly destructive marriages. I find myself wondering, why do people treat each other this way? And even more...

I Followed Christian Marriage Advice–And Failed My Husband

I Followed Christian Marriage Advice–And Failed My Husband

When Christian marriage advice goes wrong, we can end up following it to the letter--and failing our spouses. In the summer, when Rebecca and I were talking about this, one long-time reader sent me in her story, which illustrates this well, and I saved it to run...

If You Pray Hard Enough, Will God Save Your Marriage?

If You Pray Hard Enough, Will God Save Your Marriage?

If you just have enough faith, and if you just pray enough, then shouldn't God save your marriage? The first women's Bible study I ever went to, I think right around the time Rebecca was born, was for the book Power of a Praying Wife. The book has sold 8,000,000...

PODCAST: The Marriage Misdiagnosis Podcast!

PODCAST: The Marriage Misdiagnosis Podcast!

What if the evangelical church is diagnosing the problems with marriage WRONG--and so offering the wrong solutions? That's what we've been looking at on the blog all month, and there's lots more to come! Today on the podcast I walk Keith through the highlights of all...

Do You Always Have to Put Your Husband Before the Kids?

Do You Always Have to Put Your Husband Before the Kids?

When I was speaking back in the early 2000s, I remember asking women if they were a better wife or a better mother. Almost everyone put their hands up to "better mother." And I remember saying, why don't we realize that what kids really need is a strong marriage? Why...