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As we moved to Bare Marriage, we were picky about what content we brought over. The post you are looking for didn’t make the cut. However, there are still over 900 posts on this website so I am sure you can find something for your situation here!
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Recent Posts
Top 10 Mistakes I Made Teaching My Kids about Sex and Puberty
Talking to your kids about sex can be daunting. Few parents escape unscathed after explaining what sex is--and what's going to happen to kids' bodies! And yet I think our kids get the worst end of it. This week we are so excited to be launching the totally revamped...
Everything You Need to Tell Your Kids About Sex, Puberty and Growing Up
Talking about sex to your child can be scary. It's awkward. Are you going to say something wrong? And you don't like to feel that they're growing up! Everyday I get questions like this recent one, from a reader:Hi! Your books and podcast have helped me tremendously!...
We Have to Break the Cycle of Shame and Pain in the evangelical Church
One of the hardest things to do is to break dysfunctional cycles. Whether it's in our families or in our churches, being a changemaker is hard. But it is so, so necessary. It's the most vital thing that we all need to do. You can be the top politician in the land; you...
PODCAST: For Our Daughters: Plus Why Sex Abuse Scandals Keep Happening
We're not going to end sexual abuse in the church until we confront its causes. It's not just a matter of getting rid of abusers (they have a habit of popping up again in new churches anyway!). It's about figuring out the underlying contributing factors that make...
A Letter of Apology to Girls in My Youth Group About Purity Culture
Recently in our Patreon group, a member posted a letter that she’s sending out to the girls (now young women) in a youth group she used to lead, apologizing for teaching toxic things. I thought it was so wonderful I asked if I could run it here. I just want to say:...
Revisiting “Don’t Be a Stumbling Block”
Are women responsible for keeping men from lusting? There’s a chilling and glaring error in complementarian theology; men are supposed to lead women and children - both at home and in the church (with many teachers going so far as to say that women cannot even give...
How to Heal Your Faith After Toxic Teachings
Next Tuesday, Dr. Camden Morgante's new book Recovering from Purity Culture launches! I'm so excited about it, because not only does Dr. Camden walk us through the 5 purity culture myths that harmed so many long-term, but she also provides exercises and help so that...
PODCAST: Recovering from Purity Culture
What if purity culture really did a number on you? We talk a lot here at Bare Marriage about how harmful much of the purity culture rhetoric was: It increased women's chances of marrying an abuser; increased the chances she'd be sexually harassed or assaulted at...
Overcoming Shame from the “Damaged Goods” Myth of Purity Culture
Do you need to recover from purity culture? This is a first for me--but I wrote a foreword to a book! Dr. Camden Morgante's first book Recovering from Purity Culture launches next week, and I'm so excited about it. Dr. Camden is a clinical psychologist (in other...