Welcome to our new website!
It looks like you’re trying to find some content that isn’t available anymore. I (Sheila) have been blogging at To Love, Honor and Vacuum since 2008–that’s a lot of blog posts over the years!
As we moved to Bare Marriage, we were picky about what content we brought over. The post you are looking for didn’t make the cut. However, there are still over 900 posts on this website so I am sure you can find something for your situation here!
Here’s where you can search for specific topics, or else see the latest on the blog:
Recent Posts
Can You Help with Reaching Spanish Speaking Communities with The Great Sex Rescue?
We know there's a great need for The Great Sex Rescue in Spanish. Every week I hear from women who are wondering about how to get our material to their friends/family members in Latin America, or in Latin American communities in the U.S. Love & Respect is...
PODCAST: Shame Must Switch Sides (You’re Not a Prude for Not Wanting Pornified Sex)
I'm tired of being called uptight for not wanting pornified views of sex. The amazing Gisele Pelicot, who is genuinely a hero, has famously said "shame must switch sides." She's the woman whose husband arranged for almost 100 men to rape her while she was unconscious,...
“But God Used David” Shouldn’t Excuse Abusers
There's been a horrible meme circulating about how God used David--so we should rejoice when God uses evil men. I've seen it myself; it's been shared and debated in our Patreon group; and so many of you have sent it to me. While it does have immediate American...
How Gentle Parenting and Harsh Parenting can Both Go Wrong
Has gentle parenting been given a bad rap? For good reason? We had an amazing podcast last week with Wendy Snyder from Fresh Start Families, and this Tuesday we're doing a FREE webinar with Wendy to talk about how to parent with both kindness and firmness. It's all...
Discipline That’s Compassionate, Not Punitive: FREE Workshop
We know that parenting is the biggest responsibility we will ever have. But we've been told such different things about the nature of that responsibility. If you grew up in an evangelical church, chances are you were told that a parent's job is to teach them to obey,...
PODCAST: Is GENTLE Parenting Just PERMISSIVE Parenting?
How do you avoid power struggles with your kids--without just becoming a pushover? I'm sure you've heard it before--"Gentle parenting is just permissive parenting!" Or maybe you've even thought that yourself. Or maybe you've been trying to gentle parent, but you feel...
Can Christians Please Stop Talking about Spanking Babies?
We shouldn't be spanking babies. Well, spanking at all is problematic--but we especially shouldn't be spanking babies! This month I'm reposting some of the important posts I ran 4-5 years ago, and this is one I find that I point back to all the time. Rebecca wrote it...
Are Girls Responsible for Making Boys Feel Less Lonely?
Are teen girls responsible for helping teen boys fit in? There's a disturbing trend I've noticed lately where, when a disturbed man goes on a killing spree, the blame is often put on the girls who wouldn't give him the time of day. I wrote a few thoughts about that...
What Should Men Struggling with Lust Do Other than “Bouncing Your Eyes”?
What if a guy is struggling with lust, but honestly wants to do better? But at the same time, he finds that when he’s out in public, he DOES immediately focus on women’s body parts or imagine them naked. He doesn’t want to. He’s in counseling. He’s trying to stop it....