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It looks like you’re trying to find some content that isn’t available anymore. I (Sheila) have been blogging at To Love, Honor and Vacuum since 2008–that’s a lot of blog posts over the years!
As we moved to Bare Marriage, we were picky about what content we brought over. The post you are looking for didn’t make the cut. However, there are still over 900 posts on this website so I am sure you can find something for your situation here!
Here’s where you can search for specific topics, or else see the latest on the blog:
Recent Posts
There’s No Downside to Giving Kids Tons of Info about Sex
We need to have an awkward conversation about an awkward conversation. Kids need to know about sex. And they need to know about it from you. That doesn't mean that you have to do anything perfectly, or that it's not allowed to be awkward. It just means it has to...
PODCAST: Does More Sex Make Marriages Happier?
Is frequency of sex related to marital happiness? Like, does having more sex make your marriage better? Well, yes. And also no. It's nuanced. And today Rebecca and I are going to look at the studies, and show you why our approach to sex, and our go-to advice, is so...
Women: Are You Following Jesus Or Your Husband?
Who should we ultimately follow? I'm wrapping up my submission series soon, and today's post gets to the heart of the matter: too often we tell women that once they're married, their husband stands in the place of Jesus in their lives. On Monday we talked about how...
Is Submission in Marriage Really About Breaking Ties When You disagree?
If I were to ask you what it means to submit to your husband, what would you say? When I’ve asked that question at marriage groups, people hem and haw and then eventually come up with something like this:When we’re disagreeing about something, the husband gets the...
PODCAST: 4 Women Talk Menopause and Perimenopause!
I think the #1 request I get is about menopause! Whenever I ask on social media what people would like me to talk about for podcasts, the two biggest issues are how to find a decent husband--and what perimenopause and menopause are like. And menopause squeaks by the...
What Is Healthy Masculinity?
"How would you define healthy, or holistic, masculinity?” This is the question that I got when I was interviewed this past summer on the 3% Podcast. The hosts, Blake and Jamie, graciously allowed me to reshare that episode in its entirety on my own platform. You can...
PODCAST: Better Ways to Read the Bible with Zach Lambert
Do you find reading the Bible off-putting sometimes? Has the Bible been used as a weapon against you, rather than as a tool for healing? And when you read the Bible, you just feel, well, upset? Maybe that's because the evangelical church's approach to the Bible has...
Why the Doctrine of Submission Has Made Women Treat Marriage Like an Idol
The doctrine of submission puts our emphasis in the wrong place Recently I decided to rerun a series that I did a few years ago on submission, because I point to the posts so often, and yet most of you weren't following me when I wrote them! And once I write...
It’s Not Persecution if You’re Just Being Held accountable
Last week Josh Howerton preached in a sermon that he was being persecuted. He talked about how he frequently is "cancelled" as a pastor, when internet mobs come after him, and the first time that happened his wife Jana prepared a feast and told him that he was blessed...