Welcome to our new website!
It looks like you’re trying to find some content that isn’t available anymore. I (Sheila) have been blogging at To Love, Honor and Vacuum since 2008–that’s a lot of blog posts over the years!
As we moved to Bare Marriage, we were picky about what content we brought over. The post you are looking for didn’t make the cut. However, there are still over 900 posts on this website so I am sure you can find something for your situation here!
Here’s where you can search for specific topics, or else see the latest on the blog:
Recent Posts
NEW RESEARCH SERIES: Is Sex Like Bad Ravioli?
What if men and women experience sex differently? This month, our series on the blog is going to focus on some new studies that have recently been published in peer reviewed journals. We like keeping up with research, and we shared four new studies on the podcast last...
We Have Paid Research Opportunities for Grad Students and Professors
We're looking for academics who want to work with us--and get published! (This post doesn't apply to everyone who read the blog--but if you know a professor or a grad student who may be interested, please send them this link!) As you all know, for years we've been...
PODCAST: Why Sex Is Like Chef Boyardee–And Other New Research Findings
We've got four new peer-reviewed studies on marriage and sex for you today! We keep a folder of all kinds of new studies that come out that we find interesting, and I've been searching for a bunch lately as Keith and I are currently frantically writing our new...
6 Reasons the Tone Policing Argument Against us Fails
“People would listen to you more if you weren’t so angry!” I hear this a lot. Or else it’s, “People just aren’t able to hear you because of your tone. I can’t share your stuff because they’d just tune you out.” And then there’s the inevitable, “I liked you better when...
The WORST Reason Not to Divorce Your Wife
Sheila here! Every Friday, our email goes out to about 45,000 people, and Rebecca writes it, not me. And it's usually just awesome. Last week's email was special, coming at the end of a big week where we had lots of engagement around our podcast on the pathetic way...
Why Do We Ask Women to Choose Between Being a Good Wife or a Good Mom?
Why are we asking women to choose between being a wife and being a mom? One of the themes that pops up often in evangelical marriage literature is warnings to women not to be a mom first and a wife second. It's in almost all of Gary Thomas' books. I used to teach it!...
The Let Men Be Dads Podcast: Why Do Evangelical Resources Make Dads Sound Pathetic?
Let men be dads! It's our third podcast in our let men be men series, and we're finishing that up today with a bang! We often get accused of hating men, which is funny, because we believe men are amazing! Men can be totally emotionally healthy. Men have the Holy...
Why My Heart Breaks for TradWife Influencers
I’m finding the new trend of tradwife influencers rather distressing. You know those accounts--that hearken back the 1950s housewife, and espouse a life where the husband brings home the paycheque, makes the decisions, and is in authority of the wife, while she does...
Focus on the Family’s Scary Stance About Men Jailed for Domestic Violence
Focus on the Family wants women to believe that if they pray, men jailed for domestic violence can change. Just before Christmas, on December 19, something super strange happened on the Focus on the Family Facebook Page. They shared this story:"My marriage was over....