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Recent Posts
The All About Obligation Sex Podcast
It's time to debunk obligation sex once and for all. The most common question I get on social media is how to respond to obligation sex messages--"But what do you say about 1 Corinthians 7, do not deprive?" "But what do I do if pastors tell me it's a sin to withhold...
Why Might a Woman Start to Find Sex in Marriage Disgusting?
Has sex ever become super disgusting to you? I sure hope not, but as we’ve been talking about obligation sex in our current series, I’ve had several comments along those lines, and I’d like to talk about this one in particular today. A woman wrote:I have no idea how...
A Way Forward to Recovery from Obligation Sex
Is there a way forward after obligation sex? If obligation sex has been the norm in your marriage, and if it's been affecting your libido and your marriage, what do you actually do about it? How do you recover from it? This month on the blog we've been looking at...
What is Biblical Manhood?
Biblical manhood can't be separated from actual biblical men. There's so much talk about "biblical manhood" and "biblical womanhood", and it's all rather crazy. Most of the things that we consider "biblical womanhood" aren't actually demonstrated by any of the...
PODCAST: Deep Dive into Shaunti Feldhahn’s For Women Only
One of the books that women report is most harmful to them is For Women Only. When we analyzed 13 of evangelicalism's sex & marriage best-sellers when writing The Great Sex Rescue, For Women Only scored 11/48, ranking 11/13--so the third worst, in front of only...
Review of the Problems with For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn (with Download)
One of the things we're passionate about on this blog is making sure the advice that is given about marriage and sex in the evangelical world is healthy. Over the last few years, our team has surveyed over 32,000 people, measuring how certain teachings common in the...
Are Obligation Sex and Marital Rape the Same Thing?
Is all obligation sex necessarily rape? As we’ve been talking about obligation sex this month, starting with 10 things you need to know about obligation sex, and how obligation sex affects a woman’s body, there’s a conversation that keeps coming up on social media:...
Why Complementarian / Egalitarian Labels Matter: A Response to Nancy Pearcey
Do complementarian men make the best husbands? Last June and July I was really burned out. I had been engaging in a Twitter back and forth with Nancy Pearcey, the author of the new book The Toxic War on Masculinity. Her thesis is a simple one: "The happiest of all...
PODCAST: Do Complementarian Men Make the Best Husbands? A Response to Nancy Pearcey
Do complementarian men do best? That's what Nancy Pearcey says in her new book The Toxic War on Masculinity! Men who believe that marriage is a hierarchy and that men should get the final decisions (complementarians) do best. This is the podcast (and the op ed) that...