Welcome to our new website!
It looks like you’re trying to find some content that isn’t available anymore. I (Sheila) have been blogging at To Love, Honor and Vacuum since 2008–that’s a lot of blog posts over the years!
As we moved to Bare Marriage, we were picky about what content we brought over. The post you are looking for didn’t make the cut. However, there are still over 900 posts on this website so I am sure you can find something for your situation here!
Here’s where you can search for specific topics, or else see the latest on the blog:
Recent Posts
10 Ways to Create Memories with Extended Family this Christmas!
ARE YOUR CHRISTMASES WITH EXTENDED FAMILY OFTEN, QUITE FRANKLY, BORING? When I was younger I loved Christmas. It brought family, which meant having other children to play with and to sleep over–it was the best part of my year. Unfortunately, my grandparents were both...
When the Church Ignores Women’s Expertise
One of the last places in Western society that is openly and proudly sexist is the conservative Christian church. I find this quite infuriating. Other places may end up acting in a sexist way, but when push comes to shove, they’d have to deny it or make it right, or...
PODCAST: When Religion Hurts You feat. Laura Anderson
Can church actually cause religious trauma? Today on the podcast I'm talking with Dr. Laura Anderson, an expert in the complex trauma that we often find in religious circles. You can't necessarily point to one particularly bad thing; but it's all of these little...
Does John MacArthur Think Husbands are Their Wives’ Saviors?
John MacArthur thinks men save women from unfulfilled lives. I recently saw a meme on social media of a terrible take by John MacArthur who was insinuating that just as Christ is our savior, so the husband is the wife’s savior. And that is just a terribly blasphemous...
PODCAST: Perceived Autonomy vs. Actual Autonomy
How much control does your church exert over you? As we're winding down 2023, and heading into the last few podcasts of the year, we want to talk about how to get in healthy church spaces, and how to get out of unhealthy church spaces. Healthy ones exist! But often...
Christmas Gifts To Get Them Talking!
I’m super proud of our Bare Marriage merch–and think it makes great gifts! We’re in the throes of the Christmas season now, and the deadline for buying merch and getting it delivered by Christmas is December 10, so the rush is on! And we have some awesome designs...
How do “bare marriage” and “non-profit” go together?
We are so thrilled to announce that we can now raise money for good fruit Faith in the usa with the bosko foundation At Bare Marriage, Rebecca, Keith, Joanna and I (plus everyone else behind the scenes) has one big goal: Change the evangelical conversation about sex...
5 Ways to Deal with Disagreement Without Getting REACTIVE.
Every Friday, I (Rebecca) write an exclusive post for our newsletter subscribers. I work pretty hard at these, and I'm actually quite proud of them! What's been so encouraging, though, is seeing how they resonate with so many of our subscribers. Since we started...
PODCAST: A Jesus-Centered Faith vs. Nationalism feat. Andrew Whitehead
Are we losing sight of the gospel in modern politics? One of my deepest desires on this blog and podcast is that we correct the ways the modern church has gone off course, getting us away from the person of Christ, and that we help people find Jesus again. Often when...