How can husbands show love to their wives?
It’s Joanna on the blog today, but this really isn’t my advice: it’s men’s corner day and I’m just facilitating! To use a lovely, old fashioned phrase, how can a husband woo his wife? This week we asked some of the men of To Love, Honor, and Vacuum about what their strategies are to show their wives how much they love them. And special thanks to commenter Phil who inspired this post by sending us in some ideas (which we’ve included here! 🙂 ). We love it when readers give us ideas and feedback.
So here we go–as Giselle from Enchanted put it, “how does she know you love her?”
1. Spend time with her
2. Do a task you normally wouldn’t do
3. Avoid goal-oriented thinking
This one is key. If you’re only doing nice things so that you’ll get nice things back, that’s giving to get. Serving each other and seeking each other’s good is one of the hallmarks of Christian marriage.
4. Be her friend
5. Surprise her with a clean car
Spend an hour detailing her car – clean the windows, cupholders wiped out, vacuumed, and clearing out any clutter… and don’t tell her you did it until she heads out. It’s such a small gesture, but that sort of kindness does communicate so much.
6. Learn what she loves
This one by Phil really is key, isn’t it? It’s what the crew of us learned at the marriage conference we went to in April, too. And this is what we’ll be elaborating on in tomorrow’s post–practical ways that you can show your spouse love in ways that they understand!
7. Make her life easier by thinking outside the box (or inside of it)
Connor would like us all to know that that was, in fact, a joke. Unfortunately, the promo code he suggests doesn’t even work (we checked). But he’s right – doing something to make her life easier and a little out of the ordinary is a wonderful way to let you wife know she is loved. And he HAS been making the Hello Fresh meals for Rebecca lately, and having fun doing it, too!
8. Support her in her career
As I was working on making this list, I called my Dad to get some ideas. He hemmed and hawed and then he said, “you know, I did do the training course with Mom so that I could support her in her role as pastor and make sure she’d get through the course.” And I was reminded of what a big sacrifice that was – one night a week for three years, plus lots of homework on papers, all simply to support my mom in her calling. Since then, my dad has joined my mom in the pastorate and I enjoy being a “double PK”. But I’m reminded again of the sweet sacrifices my dad has made in the last few years to support my mom. Give your wife the same deference and allow supporting her calling to become a part of yours.
Does your marriage need some spicing up–and some fun?
9. Find a hobby to do together
10. Be there