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PODCAST: Let’s Talk Men of Virtue with Zachary Wagner
What is healthy masculinity? We hear a ton about toxic masculinity, and our guest today has written a book on Non-Toxic Masculinity before too! But what does it look like for men to pursue a life AS MEN but also as Jesus-followers? How do we figure out what it means...
Al Mohler, Women Podcast Hosts, and the Slippery Slope of Complementarianism
Complementarians often warn about the slippery slope of egalitarianismFor the last few years, the Southern Baptist Convention has been trying to get rid of female pastors. At first it was just about expelling churches that called women pastors. Now it's becoming more...
Why Complementarianism Depends on Keeping Women in a Bubble
Complementarianism is threatened when women see there are alternatives. I've got some quick new findings for you today, and then some birthday reflections I had yesterday (took the day off to celebrate my 56th birthday, mostly by building new garden beds, which was...
PODCAST: When Your Parenting Needs a Fresh Start feat. Wendy Snyder
Many of us are starting from scratch with parenting. We were raised in James Dobson, authoritarian type households, and we know we don't want that for our children. But we also look around at so many of the parenting trends today, and it seems as if there aren't any...
Why the Bare Marriage Research Studies Are So Ground-Breaking (And You Can Trust Them!)
There's been a big uptick lately of men especially on social media accusing us of having biased research in our study of 20,000 women. I don't normally address these issues from the blog, because, quite frankly, our work speaks for itself. We did the largest study of...
Evangelical Advice Saying Expectations in Marriage are Sinful Is Crazy-Making
A funny thing happened last week for Mother’s Day. The Gospel Coalition, a rather mainstream evangelical organization founded by the late Tim Keller and having entirely male leadership, published a Facebook post. And what was their message for Mother’s Day? Was it...
PODCAST: Why the Billy Graham Rule Hurts Men Too
The Billy Graham Rule sexualizes everyone--and isn't biblical. There's nothing in the Bible that says that we can't have healthy relationships with our brothers and sisters in Christ, and much that says the opposite. But the evangelical church has been obsessed with...
Why Understanding Obligation Sex Is Bad Doesn’t Fix Things On Its Own
Recovery from obligation sex begins with understanding autonomy and consent. It begins with understanding it was never God's will for one person to use someone else's body for their own pleasure/emotional coping mechanism, without consideration of what this was doing...
PODCAST: For Men Only by Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn Talk Lust and Sex!
This time we're looking at lust & sex in For Men Only! It's Part 2 of our deep dive into the book For Men Only by Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn, and we saved the sex & lust & libido stuff to this podcast, because Rebecca had a lot to say. If you remember, the...
Why the Patriarchy-Egalitarian Spectrum Is Deceptive: Egalitarianism is the Middle!
I’m often accused of swinging the pendulum to the other extreme. Note: this article appeared on my Substack last week, and I wanted it here to to preserve it on my website! Plus I added some good stuff to it! I remember a commenter writing about how her husband was...