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We Can Heal–and Grow Towards a Healthy Faith
Many of us grew up with toxic faith. I just hope you know you can heal and grow! Did you all see the Humans of New York posts yesterday? Everyone was sending them to me! It was a 15-post story about a woman who "wasn't the first preacher's wife to run away." It's all...
Groomed for an Abusive Arranged Marriage: Alyssa Wakefield’s Story (Podcast)
What if you grow up in what you now call a sex cult, and you marry because your dad told you to? Did you really consent to that marriage? And how does it even happen in North America today that girls are being pushed into arranged marriages? Today's podcast sounds...
A Tale of Three Brains and Libido
Let's talk about what influences your felt libido--what triggers you to want sex, and what triggers you to not want sex. We're starting our "What's Killing Women's Libido"? series, and on Monday we launched it looking at 15 things that can kill a woman's libido. Those...
Do Conservative Evangelicals Have Better Sex and Less Abuse? Our Response to Josh Howerton
I've got an awesome example of how stats can be misused today! And why it's important when we hear someone who isn't trained in statistics using studies to "prove" their point, when the point sounds like a stretch, to actually check their sources. In February, Dallas...
LOW LIBIDO SERIES: 15 Things That Kill a Woman’s Libido
Welcome to the "what's killing women's libido?" series! In the month of June I want to look at some of the reasons that women's libido is often so low, and look at what we can do about that. Now, I know that many of you reading this blog have the opposite...
Daniel Akin, President of Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary, Weaponizes 1 Corinthians 7 Against Women
If you think 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 is a command for women to have sex on demand with their husbands, you've lost the plot. And not just that, but you have no business leading an SBC (Southern Baptist Convention) seminary where future SBC pastors are trained. But that's...
PODCAST: Is Sex a “Yes Space” for Men? And What Does that Do to Women’s Libido?
Have we made sex--and marriage--into a "Yes Space" for men? And if so, how does this affect libido? It's been a while since Rebecca and I recorded a podcast where we just talked about what we wanted to talk about, rather than having everything all planned out. So...
Is Evangelicalism Wrecking Women’s Libido?
What if male Christian authors are digging the very hole they're trying to climb out of--and killing women's libido? Welcome to June, everybody! And in June, our focus is going to be on libido, asking the question: "What's killing women's libido?" Now, I know there's...
ATTACHMENT SERIES: How Can You Grow a Healthy Attachment Style?
If you know you have an unhealthy attachment style, how can you grow and change? It's the last day in May, and so I want to wrap up our posts about attachment styles. I'm so glad so many of you have found this concept helpful; it's really changed how I see the main...
At the End of a Week of Sorrows: Feed My Lambs
This was one of those weeks that leaves everyone gasping for air and searching for hope. It started off with two things dropping on Monday: The Southern Baptist Convention report on sexual abuse, which was devastating, and the viral video from a church in Indiana...