Deconstruction often means losing loved ones and becoming estranged from parents. We’re just finishing up our deconstruction series on the podcast, talking to four different people about different aspects of deconstruction. In several of our stories, a common theme...
What happens if church is the place of your greatest hurt? We're in our deconstruction series on the podcast, looking at different people's stories of deconstruction, and trying to honor all of them. What I really want to do is have people hear WHY people...
A few months ago, I went viral on Twitter when I shared that atrocious clip of Josh Howerton telling women to "do what he tells you to do" on "his" wedding night. Many of Howerton's supporters, and Howerton himself, said it was "just a joke." Sam Jolman, who was on...
You can’t honor your husband into greatness, people. Do a thought experiment with me today. Imagine that you had recently moved to Louisiana, and you hadn’t made a lot of friends yet. Your kids had been playing with some kids down the street who went to a church...
One of the things we're passionate about on this blog is making sure the self-help and relationship advice in the evangelical world is healthy. Over the last few years, our team has surveyed over 32,000 people, measuring how certain teachings common in the evangelical...
What if we’re asking the wrong questions about what to do in the bedroom? Does God have a spreadsheet of all the possible sex acts that two people could do together, with checkmarks or X’s beside each one? Sometimes it seems like that’s what we think. When I give my...