Biblical manhood can't be separated from actual biblical men. There's so much talk about "biblical manhood" and "biblical womanhood", and it's all rather crazy. Most of the things that we consider "biblical womanhood" aren't actually demonstrated by any of the...
One of the things we're passionate about on this blog is making sure the advice that is given about marriage and sex in the evangelical world is healthy. Over the last few years, our team has surveyed over 32,000 people, measuring how certain teachings common in the...
Do complementarian men make the best husbands? Last June and July I was really burned out. I had been engaging in a Twitter back and forth with Nancy Pearcey, the author of the new book The Toxic War on Masculinity. Her thesis is a simple one: "The happiest of all...
Plus please see our Great Sex Rescue Toolkit for handy downloads about the effects of obligation sex that you can give to your pastor, counselor, small group leader–anyone who teaches it!
And see chapters 9 and 10 in The Great Sex Rescue for all our charts, stats, and commentary!
And please check out The Great Sex Rescue, and our Orgasm Course if that’s been an issue for you!
Looking at the 4 ways those who believe in hierarchy in marriage think marriage can go wrong
Plus see the book Keith co-authored with Sheila, The Good Guy’s Guide to Great Sex!
And please check out our book The Great Sex Rescue about all the ways that evangelicalism has given the wrong diagnosis about sex!
Do complementarian men do best? That's what Nancy Pearcey says in her new book The Toxic War on Masculinity! Men who believe that marriage is a hierarchy and that men should get the final decisions (complementarians) do best. This is the podcast (and the op ed) that...
I love Jill Duggar's authenticity in her new memoir Counting the Cost. I love Jill Duggar's (or Jill Dillard's!) growth that she shows in Counting the Cost. I love how Jill models getting help when you need it. I love how she obviously struggled to present a balanced...
Should we endure suffering because it makes us holy? We have a distorted view of suffering in the church today, and it keeps so many women feeling guilty for wanting to make their lives better. Why don't you just put up with what you've got, because look what Jesus...
Does the Billy Graham Rule protect against sexual abuse? On Monday on the blog we were talking about the Billy Graham rule, and how it can harm women. An interesting discussion started on Facebook about that post, and I want to follow up on one of the themes in that...
Let’s talk about The Billy Graham Rule! In a podcast last season with Todd Korpi about his new book Your Daughters Shall Prophesy, we ended up talking about The Billy Graham Rule–and that seems to have been the thing in that podcast that people picked up on the most...
What if our advice actually triggers the behaviour we want to prevent? One of my favourite places on the internet is our private Patreon Facebook group, where the people who support us financially hang out. For just $5 a month people can join our Patreon group, and in...
How do you have a Christian marriage? And is a healthy Christian marriage different from a healthy marriage of two non-Christians? I had this comment after our podcast last week looking at the quest for a biblical marriage:You guys do a wonderful job showing what...
Ever feel like the fog of toxic teaching is lifting? One of the more encouraging things that’s happened to me online lately is my readers’ responses when I posted just one quote from the August 1 Desiring God article, “Your Husband Will Be Perfect; How To Love A...
It’s okay to tell yourself the truth about your marriage. This year, I want to focus on what healthy marriages look like. And one of the big things about healthy marriages is that they tell the truth. Jesus is the Way, the Truth, and the Life. He lives in truth and he...
What does it look like to have a “biblical” marriage? We toss that phrase around a lot–”biblical marriage.” It’s become a really loaded term. But often it’s assumed that a “biblical marriage” is just obvious. Everyone knows what it is. But do they? I’m back from an...
Do you feel like God is constantly disappointed in you? I’m enjoying some downtime this summer, and so I’ve been wanting to share with you some thoughts from some amazing women, highlighting them and giving them some much deserved exposure (so you can follow them...
Have you been grappling with the docuseries Shiny, Happy People? This summer, as I’m taking some down time for a month, I wanted to use the opportunity to introduce you to some amazing women that I “met” on Twitter, and whose writing inspires me and makes me think....