I heard such amazing inspirational stories about women in ministry I had to share today! The Atlantic Baptists are a small Baptist denomination in Atlantic Canada, and they've been ordaining women for a few decades now. They recently started a project to preserve the...
We know that the evangelical church has taught horrible things about sex. We know those things have had a horrible impact. And so, how could it be possible that Christians still seem to have better sex than the general population?Over the last few days I've been...
The Institute for Family Studies, a conservative think talk, just published an article claiming that religious people have better and more frequent sex. They published an article in the Atlantic explaining their findings, and a larger 62-page report on their...
Mainline Christians are salt of the earth people. Ever noticed that? They often fill all the volunteer slots at soup kitchens. They do the Christmas and Thanksgiving community giving programs. They volunteer with recent immigrants and refugees. It's often the more...
Is the evangelical church missing the boat when it comes to justice for women? Not just missing the boat theologically by supporting doctrines that subordinate women, but missing the boat in general when it comes to advocating for justice? I think it is. But I don't...
I got up at 6 in the morning to watch Lady Diana Spencer marry Prince Charles Sixteen years later, I watched her funeral three times in succession in one day, starting at 4 in the morning (I was up anyway with a baby who didn't sleep). I have tried to expain to my...
Learning how the sausage is made is not always a pleasant experience. But ignorance isn’t always bliss. And knowing the truth is fascinating, and maturing, and mesmerizing even as it evokes horror and disgust. In the last few years there have been a plethora of books...
Fight, flight, freeze or fawn. Those are the common responses we have to trauma. When we face a threat, our body may go into fight mode. We may try to run away (or desperately want to!). We may freeze, feel unable to do anything. Or we may fawn. That last one is a...
Ever felt like God was your pimp? I know that's an inflammatory statement, but I've heard this sentiment from so many evangelical women that we've interviewed in our research, or from comments and DMs. When sex is something that is degrading, painful, or makes you...
"Sure it was harmful--but it was still an improvement!" Or was it? That's the pushback that I often get when I critique evangelical sex and marriage books. I'll show that the book contains harmful teaching, and people will say, "well, yeah, but it's still better than...
The strangest thing about watching Netflix’s Death of a Pastor’s Wife is how familiar it all feels. Our family has been attending an Anglican Church since COVID ended. We haven’t been in a typical evangelical church for over 7 years. We left because of trauma and...
One of the most common pieces of marriage advice you’ll hear in evangelical circles is “your husband comes before the kids.” It’s constant, and we’re always reminded that one day the kids will leave home, but your husband will still be there. He needs to be the...
Is the aim of complementarianism to give men leadership over women? Most complementarians would eventually say yes, even if reluctantly. They would say that God calls men to headship over women, which means that men have to be willing to lead their wives--which is a...
Ever noticed how much evangelical marriage advice treats men like little boys? And the solution that helps men mature and grow up is women? But then these same books turn around and tell you he's the leader? So basically men aren't capable of being mature and making...
I'm often surprised what sexist pastors will say in public comments on social media. This week I've been posting quite a bit on Facebook about the story I shared in Monday's post where the Navigators' material justified marital rape. We've had multiple posts and...