Some awfully bizarre things happened at the recent Strong Men’s Conference–and Jezebel made an appearance. I don’t even know where to begin, and I don’t want to talk about the conference itself because so many have already done a good job. To sum up, there was one of...
When you've been raised to submit, will you even recognize abuse? With thanks to the NIV Kingdom Girls Bible for sponsoring this podcast! Today on the Bare Marriage podcast, we've got such a compelling interview with Lauren Rose from Called to Peace Ministries. She's...
with thanks to Brazos Press and the book Forgiveness After Trauma for sponsoring this post. Divorce is one of the most painful things a person can go through. But often, right when people need help the most, the church abandons them. A few weeks ago on the Bare...
When you're abused, a common defense mechanism is dissociation--when you mentally "flee" your body and try to be anywhere but here. That helps you live through trauma. But it also creates a whole heap of problems down the road when you're trying to get healthy again....
As parents we want to do everything we can to protect our kids from sexual abuse. And even though we can never completely eliminate the risk, we can make it more likely that they will tell us if something is up. We can make it more likely that we will notice. And we...
Tragically, too often in "Christian" teaching women's views are ignored, or "gaslighted". It's time for a new Bare Marriage podcast, and this one's a doozy, and a bit of a departure from my normal podcasts. Recently, readers sent to me an email and a blog post that...
So I binge watched Unbelievable (with some exceptions that I'll tell you) on Saturday, and I was very impressed. I had another post all scheduled to go for today, but I wanted to tell you about this show because it's a new one and everyone's talking about it, and I...
Last Thursday night, at 3 a.m., my husband and I were awakened by a terrible siren coming from our cell phones. An Amber alert had been sent out across Ontario, because a 2-year-old girl had been kidnapped after her abusive father had broken down the door to their...
All marriage speakers and bloggers get push back for what they say. But I'm not sure everyone realizes what women go through. Today I'd like to share some of the comments and words that are hurled at me, female bloggers like me, and my daughters when we speak up for...
Today I want to tackle a difficult subject: how can you enjoy sex after sexual abuse in your past? Your whole outlook on sex has often been poisoned, so that it's something icky, destructive, manipulative, and even evil. And now you're married to a man you love, and...
Is a biblical counsellor a good option when you need help with your marriage? Rebecca and I were talking on our podcast a few weeks ago about why biblical counsellors might be more likely to be dangerous when you need help. I'm not saying Christian counsellors are...
On Friday I was talking about how churches should handle sexual abuse allegations. But what if you have to report sexual abuse yourself? A number of issues came out in the comments on that post that I thought really should be highlighted. So instead of answering a...
Churches and sexual abuse are in the news all too frequently today. First it was the Catholic Church. Then other denominations started to be looked at--most recently in a huge expose of the Southern Baptist Convention (700 victims in 200 churches; read the Houston...
What do you do if you have a friend who is just plain mean to her husband? On Mondays I like to take a reader question and take a stab at answering it--sometimes in a blog post and sometimes in a video. This was a great question that fits perfectly in our month on...
Birth control should be a shared responsibility. I'm worried that too often women feel pressured to do something that hurts their health in order to preserve their husband's comfort. And that's not right. I'm down in New Brunswick (right on the Quebec border, on the...