The 72 Hour Rule is Made Up by Evangelical Authors. Yep. This month on the blog we're "fact checking" common sex beliefs, and one of the biggest ones in evangelical circles is the 72 hour rule: the idea that a wife must have sex with her husband every 72 hours,...
What happens to women’s desire level if their husbands don’t do housework? This month, our series on the blog is going to focus on some new studies that have recently been published in peer reviewed journals. We like keeping up with research, and we shared four new...
Everyday I get emails, comments, and DMs about how our books are changing lives. Before we wrote The Great Sex Rescue and She Deserves Better I had written several other books. But the reaction is so starkly different. I’m hearing over and over again about lives...
When we talk about people's "sexual needs", are we muddying the waters? Happy Monday, everyone! Hope you all had a good weekend and a lovely Valentine's Day. I'm in the final crunch to get the manuscript for The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex in at the publisher, and...
If we believe that men are insatiable sex machines who will want and need sex everyday, what happens when we marry and wives find their husbands are just human? This week, on our Bare Marriage podcast, we talked with Rachel Joy Welcher about her book Talking Back to...
I wonder: since we've grown up believing so much that men want sex all the time, then when he doesn't initiate sex, do women feel rejected? I'm not talking about the rejection that higher drive wives feel (that's real, and that's difficult, and I've got a series on...
What does it mean to be "attracted to your husband"? What does that actually feel like and look like? I've been talking about libido all month on the blog, and one of the problems when we're talking about libido is trying to understand what we even mean by being...
Are libido differences really about libido--or are they often about orgasm? We've been talking about libido all month, and how to navigate libido differences. And as I've been repeatedly saying, our survey of 20,000 women (and others) have shown that often when a...
Do you feel really alone when your spouse rejects you sexually? We're talking about libido all month on the blog, and I opened by talking about how to find contentment even if you're the higher drive spouse and not getting as much sex as you want--assuming you're...
What do you do if your husband rarely wants to make love? He can go forever without initiating, and you feel lonely and rejected? We've been talking this week about what constitutes a healthy frequency of sex in marriage, and what to do if sex is far less frequent. I...
We talk about frequency issues and libido issues in marriage as if they're the problem to be solved. But what if they're more symptoms of other problems? Every now and then we record a podcast that I think is truly important. I mean, I like them all, but some are more...
Are the higher drive husband, and you're wondering what to do because your wife rarely wants sex? We opened the week looking at frequency of sex in marriage. Usually marriages start off with couples having sex relatively frequently (like at least several times a...
Many, if not most, of my readers are low-libido spouses. Sex just isn't the biggest need you have, and quite frankly, most nights you could do without it. I get it. I've been the lower libido spouse for most of my marriage (it does go up and down, though!) Today I...
When it comes to sex, how much is enough in a marraige? How often should you make love? We're in the middle of our libido series on the blog this month. Last week I was asking higher drive spouses if they could be content if they had sex at the very least once a week,...
"How would you feel if your husband only talked to you once a week?" In today's podcast I'm dealing with three kind of controversial issues: Can we be content with sex if we're the higher drive spouse? Are sex and emotional intimacy truly equivalents? Should we be...