Being the higher drive spouse can be really frustrating. You want to connect with your spouse, and you want to have a passionate marriage, but it seems like your spouse doesn't share those same desires. And that can feel like a rejection. This is the last post in the...
How do you initiate sex with your wife without turning her off? We've been working through an obligation sex series for the last few weeks, and one of the big things I've been stressing is that making your spouse feel like they are obligated to have sex has disastrous...
Obligation sex can wreak havoc on us. For last month we’ve been doing a deep dive into obligation sex, looking at the main problems with obligation sex, how it affects women’s bodies, why you don’t need to consent to being used, and more. But as we’re nearing the end...
What does it mean to be "attracted to your husband"? What does that actually feel like and look like? I've been talking about libido all month on the blog, and one of the problems when we're talking about libido is trying to understand what we even mean by being...
Are libido differences really about libido--or are they often about orgasm? We've been talking about libido all month, and how to navigate libido differences. And as I've been repeatedly saying, our survey of 20,000 women (and others) have shown that often when a...
Do you feel really alone when your spouse rejects you sexually? We're talking about libido all month on the blog, and I opened by talking about how to find contentment even if you're the higher drive spouse and not getting as much sex as you want--assuming you're...
What do you do if your husband rarely wants to make love? He can go forever without initiating, and you feel lonely and rejected? We've been talking this week about what constitutes a healthy frequency of sex in marriage, and what to do if sex is far less frequent. I...
We talk about frequency issues and libido issues in marriage as if they're the problem to be solved. But what if they're more symptoms of other problems? Every now and then we record a podcast that I think is truly important. I mean, I like them all, but some are more...
Are the higher drive husband, and you're wondering what to do because your wife rarely wants sex? We opened the week looking at frequency of sex in marriage. Usually marriages start off with couples having sex relatively frequently (like at least several times a...
Many, if not most, of my readers are low-libido spouses. Sex just isn't the biggest need you have, and quite frankly, most nights you could do without it. I get it. I've been the lower libido spouse for most of my marriage (it does go up and down, though!) Today I...
When it comes to sex, how much is enough in a marraige? How often should you make love? We're in the middle of our libido series on the blog this month. Last week I was asking higher drive spouses if they could be content if they had sex at the very least once a week,...
"How would you feel if your husband only talked to you once a week?" In today's podcast I'm dealing with three kind of controversial issues: Can we be content with sex if we're the higher drive spouse? Are sex and emotional intimacy truly equivalents? Should we be...
If you want sex more often than your spouse, are you doomed to have a disappointing sex life? It's September, and in Ontario, where I live, the kids are back to school today (I know they've been back for a month where some of you all live, and in Australia & NZ, I...
Do you have sex during your period? Or is sex during your period off of the table? We're in the middle of our series on periods! We've talked about the shame that some of us felt as teens; we've talked about how men can be more empathetic and aware of periods; and...
Have you all heard "sex begins in the kitchen"--not meaning that we should do interesting things with whipping cream, but that doing the dishes is a good method to get women to warm up? I hear this a lot--"Guys, if you want her to have sex with you, you had better...