(Your) Final Words on the Stumbling Block Debate about Lust and Modesty

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Dec 4, 2020 | Faith

Yesterday on the podcast I shared about how “don’t be a stumbling block” is a toxic message to give to young girls about modesty. It all stemmed from a discussion on Facebook where I was presenting a scenario where a 13-year-old girl was blamed for...

PODCAST: Can We Please Put the Lust and Modesty Debate Behind Us for Good?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Dec 3, 2020 | Podcasts

I am very, very tired of the “don’t be a stumbling block” argument when it comes to modesty for girls. I know that this is a very widespread debate, and I have talked about it before in two main posts: My 40% Modesty Rule Why Don’t Be a...

Is “Bouncing Your Eyes” So You Don’t Lust Respectful to Women?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Mar 25, 2020 | Pornography

Is the antidote to lust that men learn the “bouncing your eyes” technique, as advocated in Every Man’s Battle? We’ve been talking about new ways to think about lust this week, with Keith’s post yesterday (and our podcast coming up...

Can We Respect Women, Please? A New Look at the Church’s View on Lust

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Mar 24, 2020 | Pornography

What if the real reason that lust is bad really isn’t about sex? i’ve talked about lust before on the blog–with the question “is lust really every man’s battle”? I’ve written that noticing is not lusting. But my husband Keith...

You Can’t Recover from Porn by Running Away from Women

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Sep 20, 2019 | Pornography

If a man is trying to recover from a porn addiction, does he need to detoxify by making sure that he never sees any woman who could be alluring? One of the biggest searches that land people on this blog is for the effects of porn on the brain, and so I have a lot of...