A few years ago, one of our podcasts on the harm of the modesty message caused a ruckus online. And so I asked people, "if you were ever sexually assaulted in church, what were you wearing?" I had so many heartbreaking responses, and I turned them into a post. I...
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PODCAST: How Should We Handle the Sex Talk with Our Kids
What are the potential pitfalls of the sex talk with your kids? Having the sex talk with your kids can be so stressful! It feels awkward. What do you say? But one of the things we also know here at Bare Marriage, after surveying tens of thousands of people over the...
Top 10 Mistakes I Made Teaching My Kids about Sex and Puberty
Talking to your kids about sex can be daunting. Few parents escape unscathed after explaining what sex is--and what's going to happen to kids' bodies! And yet I think our kids get the worst end of it. This week we are so excited to be launching the totally revamped...
Everything You Need to Tell Your Kids About Sex, Puberty and Growing Up
Talking about sex to your child can be scary. It's awkward. Are you going to say something wrong? And you don't like to feel that they're growing up! Everyday I get questions like this recent one, from a reader:Hi! Your books and podcast have helped me tremendously!...
We Have to Break the Cycle of Shame and Pain in the evangelical Church
One of the hardest things to do is to break dysfunctional cycles. Whether it's in our families or in our churches, being a changemaker is hard. But it is so, so necessary. It's the most vital thing that we all need to do. You can be the top politician in the land; you...
Revisiting “Don’t Be a Stumbling Block”
Are women responsible for keeping men from lusting? There’s a chilling and glaring error in complementarian theology; men are supposed to lead women and children - both at home and in the church (with many teachers going so far as to say that women cannot even give...
Does Spanking Actually Work?
Does spanking help kids obey? Yesterday on the Bare Marriage podcast I had an amazing conversation with David and Amanda Erickson about their new book The Flourishing Family. One thing I especially appreciated about their book is that they brought in the data about...
PODCAST: The Flourishing Family (Healthy, Evidence-Based Parenting Advice!)
Christian parenting advice is full of toxic teachings we need to ditch! It's not just marriage and sex where a lot of Christian teachings have gone wrong. It's also with parenting. Instead of teaching parents to connect with their kids and discipline in a way that...
7 Ways Your God-Given Stone Age Brain May Influence You
What if the reason you often feel stuck is actually your brain trying to protect you? I seriously loved Dr. Merry Lin’s book Rebecoming, that we talked about on the podcast last week. I was so excited when they sent it to me, because I know so many of you can’t afford...
Why Youth Pastors Shouldn’t “Date” Youth Group Members
Does it really matter if a YOUTH PASTOR dates & marries a GIRL in his youth group? After all, an age difference of 23 and 17 isn't that big a deal, right? It's illegal for a youth pastor to have sexual contact with a girl or boy in the youth group. Most of us know...
10 Reasons Christian Parents Have a Hard Time Giving up Spanking
Spanking your children is not good for them. A huge meta-analysis by Elizabeth Gershoff, done in 2016 of 160,000 children, found that spanking was either a net negative or neutral, but not positive. There are other discipline techniques that work better. In other...
A Review of the Kingdom Girls’ Bible–It’s Awesome!
With thanks to Zonderkidz for sponsoring this post. When my girls were small, one of their biggest pet peeves with church was that they always did the same Bible stories. Whenever they went to summer camp, it would inevitably be: Daniel and the Lions’ Den David and...
When Modesty Rules Make Drowning More Likely
Swimming in regular clothing increases the risk of drowning. Seriously–it’s not safe. Both my daughters were lifeguards as teens, and I still remember the training exercises they had to do when they jumped into the pool in normal clothing and then had to rescue...