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As we moved to Bare Marriage, we were picky about what content we brought over. The post you are looking for didn’t make the cut. However, there are still over 900 posts on this website so I am sure you can find something for your situation here!
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Recent Posts
It’s Not Persecution if You’re Just Being Held accountable
Last week Josh Howerton preached in a sermon that he was being persecuted. He talked about how he frequently is "cancelled" as a pastor, when internet mobs come after him, and the first time that happened his wife Jana prepared a feast and told him that he was blessed...
PODCAST: Hear Sheila Explain Healthy Masculinity and Sexuality to Men
What is healthy masculinity? And what do men need to understand about healthy marriage? A lot of my listeners may not know this, but I likely appear on twice as many OTHER PEOPLE'S podcasts as I do my own. I do a lot of interviews, and those interviews are quite...
Submission Series: What Does It Mean to Obey Like Sarah?
It's time to revisit submission and Sarah! Way back in 2018, even before we wrote The Great Sex Rescue, I wrote a big series on submission. I haven't revisited it much since then because I had already written the series! But this week I've found myself linking back to...
On Doug Wilson, and Why Conservative Women Are Labelled Progressive
They called Doug Wilson fringe until he wasn't anymore. The first thing I saw this morning when I got on social media was a post by Christy Lynne Wood saying exactly that--they called him fringe until he wasn't. And it's true--I called him fringe as well, for a time....
PODCAST: Professor Neil Shows Us How to Reach Young Men Steeped in Misogyny
I love Professor Neil's videos. Professor Neil is a professor of English literature at Cambrian College in Sudbury, Ontario, but he's best known for his TikTok and Instagram channels where he "stitches" videos from people who have said horriby misogynistic things,...
Have We Taught Teen Girls to Ignore Red Flags When Dating?
What happens when we tell girls that “boys will want to push your sexual boundaries”? That's one of the toxic teachings that we measured in both our books The Great Sex Rescue and She Deserves Better! If you haven't read them yet, you should! This week we're...
3 Ways to Help Your Friends Not Fall Into Toxic Evangelical Teachings
The Doug Wilson blowup made me realize: We need to speak to our friends about fear. Did you see the CNN interview with Wilson and members of his church last week? Basically, in that interview they supported: Women existing primarily for reproduction (exactly against...
PODCAST: What Does Authoritarianism and Complementarianism Have in Common? (with a Quiz!)
What if complementarianism is authoritarianism in disguise? One of the questions that haunts us here at Bare Marriage, that we're always trying to understand and strategize about, is how do we reach people who are still knee-deep in toxic teachings in their churches?...
When You Realize Grief Has a Mind of its Own
I startled awake this morning, mid-dream, at 4 a.m., like I do most August 6ths. Because 29 years ago my water broke at 4 a.m. My son would have turned 29 today. The body remembers. I never know what I'm going to write about on his birthday. I usually leave it...